do we have? I didn't become Conservative to build up Or- thodox and Reform." t Beth Achim, Rabbi Martin Berman is facing a more im- mediate issue — sur- vival. The congregation has dropped from 600 families to 470 in the last four years. Merger discussions with B'nai Moshe, B'nai David, Shaarey Zedek and others have led to two votes by the congregation in the last two years to go it alone, in Southfield. "Now," the rabbi says, "the people within the con- gregation who. wanted to merge see the desire of the members to remain in- dependent and have worked to make the synagogue better. And the people who felt the synagogue should stay here have had to take on responsibilities." Beth Achim is trying to lure young families with its youth programming, in- cluding Cub Scout and Boy Scout troops, and educa- tional dinners and programs with J.E.F.F. (Jewish Expe- riences For Families). It has changed its ritual practice to allow bat mitzvahs to chant the haftorah. "We want to be open and accepting," Rabbi Berman says, "but there have to be certain boundaries between someone who is Jewish and someone who is not Jewish. With the number of inter- marriages, we must try to reach out and make those barriers as minimal as possible. "We're also an older con- gregation, which is why our efforts are toward kids and families. With so many families today involving single parents and divorces, we have to reach out to peo- ple who haven't felt comfor- table in a traditional syn- agogue structure." The rabbi agrees the Con- servative movement has lost members to Reform and Or- A "We have to stretch, but how much stretch do we have?" Rabbi Nelson thodoxy. Reform's approach to intermarriage and the predominance of English in religious services has at- tracted some. At the same time, he says, Reform is readopting traditional forms such as kippot and increased Hebrew in the service. Orthodoxy, lie believes, sells itself to the Jewish community as the only authentic faction, "and some who want to become more traditional see this as the only way. So we've suffered some erosion on the edges." Rabbi Berman feels smaller synagogues give their members and clergy greater intimacy, while larger congregations offer more programming. But, he warns, it is becoming finan- cially more difficult for con- gregations of even 500 members to afford rabbis, cantors, office support, social and educational facilities. "The non-member com- munity turns to synagogues when they need them —for rites of passage, community stability, education. If they don't start supporting the synagogues, they'll discover they are not there when they need them." Last year, he says, a woman called him to com- plain when Beth Achim was considering merger and leaving Southfield. "But she was not a Beth Achim mem- ber, nor even a member of another synagogue," he says. haarey Zedek has a reputation of being wealthy. It has a num- ber of high-profile members who helped retire the synagogue's mort- gage a few years ago. It will dedicate its new $3.5 million family education center in West Bloomfield in August. It has an $8.2 million en- dowmentfund. And it has a budget deficit. For synagogue member and executive director Leonard Baruch, juggling these realities, and public perceptions, is an endless task. Like its fellow congrega- tions that believe they have been successful, Shaarey Zedek members point to quality leadership, pro- gramming and facilities. It has a history of hosting and supporting communal S events and its senior rabbi, Irwin Groner, is national president of the Rabbinical Assembly. The new family center in West Bloomfield continues a Shaarey Zedek tradition of establishing satellite facilities in the newer Jew- ish areas while maintaining the synagogue in an older community. With the family center and Beth Hayeled program in West Bloomfield, Shaarey Zedek will continue Beth Hayeled classes at its Southfield site, afternoon Hebrew school classes at Hillel Day School in Farm- ington Hills, and all Sunday classes in Southfield. It instituted a free-tuition program for children of members in kindergarten through 5th grade, helping to bring in 91 new syn- agogue members in the last year. Mr. Baruch sees the family center as a place to relieve tired parents, in a Jewish environment. "Years ago when you had a problem, you could go see the rabbi," Mr. Baruch says. "Jewish people got away from that. We're trying to refocus the synagogue as the place to go for help." Shaarey Zedek's large size allows its members unlimited. choices, Mr. Baruch says. "If you don't do anything creative, you won't touch people.' If we answer people's needs, they'll be here." The synagogue has a reputation of wealth, but Mr. Baruch dismisses it. "I have members walking in here or calling with very difficult problems — I can't tell them that I have my own." To help, he serves as a go-between, keeping donors and needy members' iden- tities secret. "I think we are very com- munity-oriented here. We have to be. There is an equality at Shaarey Zedek. The inequality is in the minds of people outside the structure. There's no re- served seats here." Despite an $8.2 million endowment fund which con- tributed $600,000 to this year's synagogue budget, Mr. Baruch is juggling fi- nancial figures. "It is going to be increas- ingly difficult to have high levels of programming as costs escalate," he says. "Our stability is in our en- dowment fund," which has accrued 165 pledges totall- ing $10 million since 1979. Despite this support, Mr. Baruch expects that he will have to borrow from the bank to cover this year's deficit. 'nai Moshe is taking the opposite ap- proach to Shaarey Zedek, believing that smaller will be beau- tiful. While its former building in Oak Park had more than 800 seats in the sanctuary, the new B'nai Moshe will have 550 perma- nent seats, with none more than 11 rows from the bimah. The congregation, before and during the transition of B