NORTHGATE Alex Zaguskin and Igor Peysin advise Leonid Nevelev. or six wedding dresses to choose from. Someone else did Mrs. Zager's hair, her nails, her makeup. "Everybody was into it," Mrs. Zager said, smiling over the memory. People are so friendly, many mornings Mrs. Zager Dmitri, Valerie, Irina and Inna Zager. 24 FRIDAY. MAY 1. 1992 lets her daughters, Valerie, 9, and Inna, 17, stand at the gate house on Green- field Road and wait for a passing car to take them to Avery Elementary or to Berkley High School. "I let them because a lot of Russians drive by and give the children rides to school," Mrs. Zager said. "After living here, we kind of know who everybody is. It's that kind of neighbor- hood." Suddenly, emigre families like the Zagers have something they never had before — a tightly knit community, instant and in- tense; a chance to meet in the afternoon or evening for a walk, a story, a heart- ache. Some immigrants can't get used to it. Serge Mikhaylovskay, 28, a medical researcher at Sinai Hospital, found life at Northgate stifling. He moved out a year ago. "It feels too much like a Russian village or reserva- tion," said Mr. Mikhaylov- skay, who still comes most nights to Northgate to visit his parents. "This wasn't supposed to be another Russia." Mr. Mikhaylovskay thinks it's good to stay at a place like Northgate one or two years. "Then, if you can, you should leave," he said. "The danger is that too many Russians rely on each other and don't try hard enough to learn Eng- lish." Vadim Astrachan, 15, and his best friend, Eugene "G.M." Mondrusov, 15, both left Leningrad about a year ago. Vadirn's family went directly into an apartment at Northgate; Eugene's family moved into a house his aunt rented for his family in Berkley. "We're not at Northgate because we don't want to live inside another Russian city," said Eugene, a 10th- - grader at Berkley High School. "I want to assimi- late into the English- speaking community, and you can't do that at Nor- thgate." Vadim, also in 10th grade at Berkley, enjoyed the ups and downs of being part of the community at Northgate is the hub of activity, the ultimate grapevine. Northgate. His family liv- ed there for a year and just recently moved into an- other apartment in the nearby Lincoln Woods complex. "We were just there a year, but I thought Nor- thgate was a good experi- ence," Vadim said. "I met some very interesting peo- ple." Eugene thinks even one year is too much. "It reminds me of a ghetto," he said. In fact, living at Nor- thgate reminded Eugene of Brighton Beach, a predominantly Soviet Jew- ish area of Brooklyn, N.Y.. "You can be at Northgate and not hear one word of English," Eugene said. "Once, when I was in Brighton Beach, an Ameri- can walked into a store, and a Russian woman behind the counter yelled out in Russian, 'Who is that foreigner?' " Despite his concerns about Northgate, Eugene is quite the visitor. Usually he comes by bike, a 15- minute ride. "A lot of my friends live in the complex," Eugene said. "When the weather is good, we meet, ride bikes, or watch videos." Most of the boys are into swapping videos. "We have a system," Eugene said. "I get a video for a couple days, then I give it back. I can either borrow another, or lend one of mine out." There are times when it's hard to tell the visitors from the residents. People are constantly coming and going, going and coming, on foot, on bike, in cars. It's Sunday, and lots of young mothers are walking their toddlers across the grassy quads in front of the red-and-white brick apartment houses. Lots of older adults are out. You can walk throughout the complex without going near main roads. Just watch out for those guys on roller blades. Whoa, here comes a speedster. He thinks he's