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Also know that "what you can live with" is fre- quently quite different from "what you can put up with for a couple of hours" when you're in a great mood or have had too much to drink. Over time, your date's idiosyncrasies can swing from endearing to irritating. Bobbie saw herself as highly tolerant and accep- ting of others, but when it came to the main man in her life, try as she may, she fell short of her goal. Rick tested her patience by never calling when he said he would. Because this was a long distance affair, calling played a rather dom- inant role. Bobbie became adept at biting her tongue to avoid phone-to-phone com- bat, but her internal agita- tions raged on. Finally she telephoned Rick one evening and called it quits. On the flip side, free- flighty sorts should not try to land an anal retentive suitor as a savior. If you wait for bounced checks to signal a need to reconsider your finances, and your partner calculates tips to the penny, breakdowns will like- ly preclude any hoped for balance. • Know what you want, not just what you'd like. Be realistic. Deep down, most of us don't want our dreams to come true. Fan- tasies don't tend to fit in with the demands of reality. For years, Arlene searched for a man "I could do every- thing with." But no matter how clever and cultured her date proved to be, she would dismiss him after a few weeks. What she really wished for was someone amenable to doing every- thing together — but only when she wanted to do them. A loner through her youth, she jealously guarded her free time and her inde- pendence. What she truly sought was a mate with whom she could coexist — not bond into one being. Someone who would respect her privacy needs, pursue his own goals, but be there when she needed compan- ionship and intimacy. To find who you're looking for, you need to know what you're looking for. Do you want a soulmate or a playmate, a partner for life or a companion from time to time? You have to know who you really are. Strip away all those years of self- perceptions that might be out of tune with who you are today. And don't have unreason- able expectations for others — or yourself. To make any relationship work, there will be things you have to live with and live without. Just know your limits. Once you sacrifice your self-esteem or your sanity to Mr. or Ms. Wrong, you lose. ❑ New Horizons Elects Officers New Horizons Chapter, Ci- ty of Hope, held its first an- nual election of officers. Elected for the coming year are: president, Marilyn Guss; vice presidents, Sharon Stein, Fern Fine, Marsha Green- stein; secretaries; Sharon Honeyman, Shelly Katlein, Roz Fuertes; treasurer, Mar- ti Cohen. Installation of officers will take place at the paid-up members dinner 7:30 p.m. Aug. 25 at the Franklin Pointe Clubhouse. For reser- vations by Aug. 20, call Sharon Honeyman, 557-8904. Jewish Singles Play Softball Southfield Jewish Singles play co-ed softball every Sun- day at Catalpa Field, 11 1/2 and Greenfield (behind Oakland County Medical Building). For information, call Jack Lewis, 543-8237. 'H LOCAL NEWS Morgenthau Lodge Sets Installation Abraham Burnstein is president for the Henry Morgenthau L'Chayim B'nai B'rith Lodge for 1991-1992. Other officers are vice presidents: Harold Zuker, Allan Nathan and Ernie Nee- dle. Secretaries include Henry Cohn, Phil Rothschild and Phil Needle. Trustees are Jesse Antman, Ted Frazis, Leslie Kay, Mar- vin Litt, Joel Marwel, Sheldon Rosenberg, Phil Rothschild, Phil Needle and Mitchell Bloom. Jerry Helfman is past president. The installation of new of- ficers will take place 11:30 a.m. Aug. 25 at the Somerset Inn, Troy. For reservations, call Jerry Helfman, 788-1175; or Allan Nathan, 647-4172.