difficulties between the sur- vivors and their grown chil- dren," she added. A bright spot, Ms. Gorko said, is that although the survivors and their children often have difficult relation- ships, many survivors seem to have wonderful relation- ships with their grand- children. They do not have the same expectations of their grandchildren as of their children, nor are the survivors as hard on this third generation. "Besides," Ms. Gorko said, "survivors were working and struggling when their children were young, so they didn't have time to play with them and maybe they didn't have the spirit. Now, with the passage of time, many have more to give." "The pain will never go away and the past will never disappear and the losses will always be there," according to Ms. Gorko. "But even now, mourning would help Holocaust survivors. "Talking about their expe- riences and feelings, even though painful, can still be beneficial." Ms. Gorko, a vice president of the International Net- work of Children of Jewish Holocaust Survivors, defines a Jewish survivor as any Jew who was in Europe when persecution started in his or her country. She said studies have shown that children of sur- vivors, expected to be a drain on society, have not been so. Instead, every controlled study has shown that they have no more, nor fewer, problems than anyone else. American-born, Ms. Gorko grew up without grand- parents, aunts and uncles and first cousins. She has a strong sense of family and is concerned about being "the last Gorko." "Being a child of survivors flavors your life," she said. "It's the canvas on which you paint your life." Ms. Gorko said she has worked very hard in therapy to deal with her problems re- lating to the Holocaust. She had to deal with the fact that she grew up in a sad household as an only child because her older sister, Helena, died in an Auschwitz gas chamber at the age of 5. "We, as children of sur- vivors, always knew what people could do to each other," she said. "We never had the notion that the world was a good place." "I don't remember finding out," she said. "I always knew." ❑ 10th and 11th Grade Students Top of the Line Shaver - suggested retail $126.50 ••• Silver's Price $89.95 ••• Rechargeable Shaver - suggested retail $110.50 • • • Silver's Price $65.95 ••• Braun Basic Shaver - suggested retail $68 FOLLOW US FOR A SEMESTER IN ISRAEL WITH PROJECT DISCOVERY • •• Silver's Price $49.95 • •• Curling Iron & Brush - suggested retail $30 — Spring 1992 • • • Silver's Price $19.95 — Detroit High School Program in Israel Inform onal Meeting Thursday, Jane 13, 7:30 p.m. United Hebrew Schools 21550 W. 12 Mile, Southfield 151 W. Fort at Shelby, Detroit 963-0000 ZIP UP THE HOMELESS! ONE DAY ONLY Friday, June 7, 1991, 10 a.m.-9 p.m. Trade in your used jeans (Clean without holes) for a new pair at 50% OFF • leans collected will be donated to the Homeless of Oakland County • One pair of jeans per customer. • No charges ORCHARD MALL To RSVP and for further information contact: The Israel Desk Sivan Maas, 661-5440 or Agency for Jewish Education Ofra Fisher, 354-1050 I Special 25% Savings I With This Coupon Through 6/31/91 I Salon Femme Boutique Featuring Knits Knits Knits Cotton -- Rayon Wool Orchard Lake Rd. at Maple Rd. 8514 260 RAY-BAN SUNGLASSES Cuisinart FOOD PROCESSORS SEIKO WATCHES WATERMAN PENS 40.50% OFF sHR-P. INTERPLIT s r MONT BLANC PENS TOOTHBRUSH $ 63 40% OFF SUGG. LIST RCA-SONY TV's K.45 KITCHEN.AID MIXERS NOW ONLY $164.98 PHONE ANSWERING MACHINES CROSS PENS 40% OFF s8U OSCAR BRAUN'S LINCOLN TOWERS SUITE 111 15075 W. Lincoln (10 1 /2 Mile) 968-5858 One Block East of Greenfield - Mon. thru Fri. 10.4, Sat. 10.2 NORELCO ELECTRIC SHAVERS $29.88 Available In Sizes Fourteen Through Twenty-Six ( 2045 Orchard Lake Rd., Bloomfield 253-1601 Between Middlebelt and Telegraph Tues.-Sat. 10:00 until 5:30 -- After Hours by Appointment1 c ak BUICK Audi mazoa Volkswagen LOTUS NISSAN Home of the Seven Car Pileup Grand River at 10 Mile Farmington Hills 471 - 0800 THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS 55