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social service agencies
across the country, JFS
offers a program for children
to meet and speak about
divorce. The groups are
facilitated by clinical social
workers Fay Rosen and
Karen Rouff.
"We want to know what is
concerning the children,"
Ms. Rouff said. "The kids are
very interactive with one
another. They share a lot of
human feelings with each
other."
The children are invited to
express their feelings in role-
playing games, in artwork
and in a newsletter.
"They know the reality
and can play it out," Ms.
Rosen said. "They can show
you in their own terms that
this is the way divorce really
is to me, and at the same
time they can show you the
way they would like it to be.
Some children are hurting
more than others. But we
give them a safe place where
they can come and share and
hopefully learn to cope."
Like their parents, some
Jewish children have yet to
come to terms with the
divorce.
David, 14, has become the
parental child in his
mother's home, taking care
of his younger siblings after
school until she gets home
from work.
"I turn on the television,
get homework going and put
snacks out on the table," he
said. "I don't answer the
door for anyone, and if the
phone rings I tell the person
on the other end that my
father can't come to the
phone right now. That's my
job to help my mom.
"I can't play afternoon
sports or go to the mall with
my friends," he added.
"That hurts."
David said he's not angry
at his parents for their
divorce. He has trouble with
the idea of them dating other
people. But he said he knows
so many other kids in school
from divorced families that
he doesn't feel alone.

Ten-year-old Ruthie, on
the other hand, is acting out
her anger by being forever
bitter to her mother, Joan,
and her siblings.
"This was a kind, nice
little girl," Joan said. "She
maintains herself pretty
well. But now she hits.
"I can live with her hitting
if it means she's healing.
But if you ask me how she's
doing with the divorce, I'll
tell you it depends what day
it is. This wasn't supposed to
happen to her, to us. But it
did. Now we have to figure
out how to move on." 0

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JVS went to work to help Valentina transfer
her skills to the Detroit-area job market. With
the agency's help she found a job at DuPont,
where she continues to work today
as a research chemist.

Last month,Valentina's brother arrived from
Moscow, and JVS is already working to help him
overcome vocational, cultural
and linguistic challenges.

It's part of a JVS tradition that began in 1941, as
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