SINGLE LIFE
Fifth Annual
Tzedaka Fair
For Fifth Graders, Their Parents and Teachers
SUNDAY, March 10
9:30 a.m. - noon
at
Temple Beth El
Telegraph Road at 14 Mile Road
Birmingham
Special Activities
Free Admission
Featured Guest:
Danny Siegel
Internationally Known
Mitzvah Mayven
Co-Sponsored by:
Temple Beth El
Women's Division, Jewish Welfare Federation
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kind of table they prefer, says
owner Reid Ashton.
"First there are the smok-
ing and non-smoking areas,"
he says. "If the person is
alone and carrying a news-
paper or magazine, we show
him or her a table with more
light and ask if this is
acceptable.
"Some single people appear
to be shy and quiet so we
show them to a quiet table
where they can people-watch.
Another single person may be
talkative so we seat him or
her with a server who is
gregarious and can spend
more time at a table.
"This is the true ambiance,"
Reid says.
Unfortunately, this isn't the
story with every dining spot.
Many single diners, especial-
ly women, insist they're made
to feel like the Lone Ranger
or a social outcast when they
come into a restaurant with-
out a man on their arm.
In some restaurants, it's ob-
vious the management isn't
thrilled about a single. And
the waiter who has the idea
that women are poor tippers
isn't going to knock himself
out. The single woman, in
some instances, can forget
about getting a refill on her
coffee.
The same may hold true for
two women dining together.
The host or hostess will often
ask, "Just the two of you
tonight?" as if that were a
social blunder.
"When singles I know go
into many fine restaurants,
it's assumed by the hostess
that they're waiting for a se-
"Some single
people appear to
be shy and quiet
so we show them
to a quiet table
where they can
people-watch."
— Reid Ashton
cond party," says Marianne
Flif.
"Service is entirely dif-
ferent than when we are with
an escort. It seems to be the
same with two women. The
assumption is erroneously
taken that the tip will be in-
adequate. I always tip 20 per-
cent."
Marianne maintains it's
more accommodating at a
truck stop. She does a lot of
traveling by car and doesn't
feel intimidated when she
eats alone on the road.
"Where is it written that I
have to have a date to eat in
a restaurant?" she asks.
And where is it written that
singles have to be satisfied
with a TV dinner, or
something less nutritious, in-
stead of enjoying a whole-
some, tasty dinner in a
restaurant of their choice.
There is an ever-growing
number of solo diners, says
Ruth Ellen Mayhall of Chuck
Muer Restaurants. "Studies
by the National Restaurant
Association reveal that solo
diners, often professionals in
their 20s and 30s, spend more
than half their food budget in
restaurants (married couples
spend close to 37 percent of
their food budget dining out).
"Our staff at Charley's
Crab at the Northfield Hilton
in Troy is sensitive to the fact
that single diners need to be
accommodated gracefully.
Solo diners receive a warm
welcome from our host staff,
who make every attempt to
seat the solo diner im-
mediately. We seat single
diners at the bar or at small
tables in the dining rooms.
Our bar atmosphere, however,
is conducive to dining for
lunch or dinner; guests can
order from the same menu
presented in our dining
rooms.
"Solo diners generally
prefer this cozy bar/lounge
seating, feeling less con-
spicuous in this setting than
sitting alone at a table.
Whether seated at the bar or
at a table, we give the solo
diner a little more personal
attention without being
patronizing."
Restaurants are a good in-
dicator of singles treatment.
Many dining spots have come
a long way in the way they
welcome singles. Those who
still shudder at the sight of a
lone diner today are,
thankfully, in the very small
minority. If they're smart,
these restaurants will run
fast toward the modern way of
thinking. They'll face up to
the fact that single diners are
here to stay and no longer to
be treated with a dark-ages
chill.
For single diners, the first
time may be the hardest. But
singles who believe in being
good to themselves say it gets
better. That's why so many
more of them are going for
it.
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