photographer said the average order
is usually 60 to 80 pictures."
While taking family photos caused
some tension at Jennifer G:s wedding,
photographers said that that is the
exception rather than the rule.
"The parents seem to come to the
realization that it's their child's special
day, and they come together for him
or her," Mr. Gorback said.
Mr. Goldenberg has found that
everyone involved in the wedding is
civil to each other, and if there is any
animosity involved, it is not overt.
Whether or not they believe that a
divorced family adds complications
to photographing a wedding, each
photographer recommends dis-
cussing the options with them, and
then talking to the family members
involved.
Under The Chuppah
Because there is no real issue of
Jewish law involved, Rabbi William
Gershon of Congregation Shaarey
Zedek leaves the decision of who
walks down the aisle, and who stands
under the chuppah to the couple.
"It's not an issue of law; it's one of
civility," Rabbi Gershon said. "There
is room for the couple to make their
own decisions."
Rabbi Gershon said that in the 50
or 60 weddings at Shaarey Zedek
each year, he's seen numerous
combinations under the chuppah.
At Jennifer G.'s wedding, both her
stepmother and stepfather stood with
their spouses under the chuppah. "I
wanted my stepfather there because
I've lived with him since I was five,"
she said. "I knew that my father would
have a fit if I did not include his wife,
whom I dislike."
After speaking with her rabbi,
Jennifer realized that the only way to
maintain the "peace" at the
ceremony, and still honor her
stepfather was to give in on this issue.
"The chuppah was big enough to
accommodate 11 people, and
everything seemed fine during the
ceremony," she said.
In the weddings he has officiated,
where a divorced family was involved,
Rabbi Gershon said that he has not
found too much hostility. "Usually,
hopefully, people put aside their true
feelings for their children."
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