"Parents who are number 370 on the waiting list will call me five years from the time they are placed on the waiting list only to find they are still number 370." Richard Cooper HOSTAGES AT HOME Lake School, and the thought of her at- tending one day and not attending the next day just doesn't make sense. "We did not want her in an institution," he said. "We wanted her here with us. And because she was with us, now they are telling us that there's no room for Ellen anywhere. Society is telling these people that they are now to be hostages in their own house. Society is telling us bas- ically to get out of their way." For now, though, Ellen Stern is still part of the system. She, like Rachel Kopelman, has a beautiful face, smile and eyes. She loves having makeup applied as part of her Wing Lake class, and she loves seeing herself look pretty in the mirror. Her teachers joke with her, telling her that she looks "hot." Miss Stern's teacher, Alice Johnson, said Ellen has a "real good self-image and is living a fulfilled life." Nicole, born with spinabifada, attends public school five days a week. On a day in mid-October, Miss Stern and her classmates are making home- made applesauce. The class is alive with children are busy and being taken care of artwork made by the students. They use job is saying goodbye to a 26-year-old who occupational training devices such as during the day." Mr. Fontichiaro said that a parent can large, round electronic switches to turn is moving on. "We are an extended family here," he on appliances such as mixers. There is a not start too soon in advocating for ser- said. "We live with them through many vices for their children. He said that it is "talking" computer that a speech aspects of their lives. When they leave more than just on a school district basis or therapist uses to work with them. There here, their parents show a great deal of a county basis. He said parents need to is also a water bed that gives the students anxiety. And why shouldn't there be organize themselves politically so that a chance to get out of their wheelchairs anxiety? We have a real dichotomy here, their political representation hears them. and stretch out for a while. a system that provides a standard of Student services are paid for on a 90-10 It's this liveliness, this stimulation that excellence and a system that exists on an ratio, 90 percent of their educational fun- Miss Stern will be without come June. ding comes from the state, 10 percent Like the Sterns, Ms. Johnson said she is inequitable basis. "When a parent (of a child with from the county. Mr. Cooper said he has dreading the day when she loses Ellen as disabilities) is working a full-time job, never had any difficulty in getting Oak- a student. they are working hard to make it through land County to come up with its 10 per- "I have grown with Ellen and with the day," he continued. "But when they cent. He's certain that if Michigan came these kids," she said. "I have a special come home, they come home to something up with the $17.1 million of the $19 mill- bond with them. Please don't feel sorry different than most of us can understand. ion he needs, then Oakland County would for Ellen Stern. I think she is enjoying her The job doesn't end for them. And now come up with its $1.9 million share. life. She does a fine job with what she can we're telling them that they can't even Mr. Fontichiaro added that many do." Robert Fontichiaro, Wing Lake's have the peace of mind knowing their principal, said the hardest aspect of his 30 FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 9, 1990