to work with a partner most of the time. 'Aikido' means `way of harmony.' You take your partner's — not oppo- nent's — energy, and you make one technique together. It's not a punch-and-kick type of thing." Her Aikido teacher is Takashi Kushida, an eighth- degree black belt who lives in Ann Arbor. Along with fellow Aikido students, Konikow recently accompanied Kushi- da on a trip to Japan. How did Lisa Konikow, who grew up in Huntington Woods, come to be in Japan with a martial arts group? Konikow describes being raised in a home filled with art, music and books. "I've been blessed," she says. "I have fabulous parents." Her mother, Lindy, was a docent for 25 years at the Detroit Institute of Arts. Her father, Dr. Zalman Konikow, a children's dentist, is presi- dent of the Chamber Music Society of Detroit. "I was always very bookish, very pale, and I avoided sports like the plague." Konikow says. "I flunked tennis twice in high school. I was dreamy. I would bump into things, holding a book as I walked." Aikido first entered her life in the form of a challenge, almost a dare to change her unphysical ways. When she left Michigan State Universi- ty, Konikow had a boyfriend who took up Aikido. He showed her the holds, and the pins, but told her she was too klutzy to participate herself. That's all Konikow needed to hear. Insult became in- spiration. She went to watch a few Aikido classes at Oak- land University. Then she signed up, attending class twice a week. She was the on- ly female amongst 20 male students. There was tough tumbling along the way, but the Aikido Kid persevered. "You have to fall a lot in Aikido. And I hate the fall- ing," Konikow says. "I'd have to take anti-nausea medicine sometimes before I'd go. But there was something in it that I liked." Konikow says Aikido fit in with the loving way she was raised. "It sounds real corny, but Aikido is about relation- ship — working together." She also notes that Aikido has a very high level of culture, history and etiquette, which is especially appealing given her own background. Her family was among the early members of the Jewish Parents Institute. And, she says, Aikido gave her confidence. "That boy- Patti Davis measures a bullet hole. friend who told me I couldn't do it because I was too klutzy is long gone." At one point, Konikow was training 10 times a week, im- mersing herself in advanced studies. But now, at 36, she trains a couple of times a week and teaches an adult and a children's class for Aikido Yoshinkai Association of North America (AYANA). She describes her current existence as well-balanced. She has a primary job she loves — managing the Xochipilli Art Gallery in Bir- mingham — and a multitude of interests, including litera- ture, French and Spanish, linguistics and gardening. Like many others who have traveled roads not usually taken, Konikow says there have been times when she felt black sheepish. "I wasn't successful in the conventional way. I wasn't in- terested in corporate life. "But my life has gotten so wonderful. And a lot of it, I feel, is because of Aikido. I've just stuck with something I love. And something good came out of it." "I started making phone calls to detective agencies to see what I had to do. I mean, what does a Jewish girl know about being a detective?" ❑ THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS 27