MI THE JEWISH NEWS DECEMBER 22. 1989 A Toast To Jewish Living Guidelines For The December Dilemma By RABBI IRWIN GRONER Rabbi Irwin Groner is rabbi of Congregation Shaarey Zedek and the author of this month's `To Our Readers.' For each issue of L'Chayim, a rabbi, Jewish educator or other notable will present an overview of the month's theme. In the life of the American people, December is a happy month, for it brings holiday spirit, parties and presents. To American Jews, December brings a troublesome problem. The magnitude of the Christmas celebration and the power of the commercialized Christmas spirit are a challerige to Jewish integrity and to the wisdom of Jewish parents. Some may prefer to evade the challenge and ignore the consequences. But all of us recognize that this season awakens in us a sense of being apart. This separation from the rest of American culture may either evoke a response of painful exclusion, or it can express, in a significant form, a_ thrilling awareness of one's spiritual identity and unique heritage. Shall this month awaken in us a feeling of deprivation, or shall it fortify wihin us a heightened sense of Jewish dignity and self-worth? To consider one issue, no doubt our schools will again violate the American principle of the separation of church and state. There will be carols and pageants and symbols of the Christian religious holiday. And the painful question will again arise in many homes: What do we do? Each person has to answer this question, and similar ones, according to the dictates of his own conscience, with a view toward individual circumstances, and taking into consideration what is practicable. I have a few suggestions that are based on the experiences of rabbis in various communities. I submit them in the form of questions and answers. other American holiday. Christmas Is Christmas a national holiday is a sacred festival for those who which Jews can observe, to some follow the dictates of their faith. degree, in good conscience? Christmas is not a national Is it not true that many holiday. It is an important Christian Americans consider Christmas to be holy day which celebrates the birth a national holiday? of Jesus, the Christian Messiah. Responsible community leaders Christmas is not in the same deplore the secular perversion of category as Thanksgiving Day, the Christmas season and try to Fourth of July, Veterans Day, or any overcome it. Thoughtful clergymen are dismayed by the commercialism of the Christmas period and seek to reaffirm, among their followers, its fundamental religious teaching. What about the Christmas tree? The Christmas tree is a symbol which, for many Christians, has important religious meaning. This Continued on Page L-2 Artwork by Danny Fenster, age 5, of Huntington Woods. Son of Rose and Buddy Fenster.