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Community Center, delivers
Meals on Wheels, helps his
daughter with her limousine
service and attends nightly
synagogue services.
However, despite his fond-
ness for Ida, Nathan feels he
is too old for her and fears
marrying again — his first
marriage lasted 57 years. In
addition, he recently became
diabetic and fears losing his
eyesight and driving
privileges. Although Ida, a
non-driver, says she will take
care of him, he doesn't want
her to have to do that.
Besides, he says, "After five
years of absolute freedom and
doing exactly what you want
to do?' he's not sure he wants
a different lifestyle.
Ida doesn't fear losing her
late spouse's Social Security
benefits by marrying because
a change in the law allows
persons over 60 who marry to
keep those benefits.

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Marilyn Zeldes, Nathan's
daughter, says she is "very
happy he's enjoying the com-
panionship of the opposite sex.
He's a very active man. When
we went to a wedding recent-
ly in California, he made me
feel old — he was dancing with
every young woman from age
30 on up and they all were
begging for more."
Her father keeps kosher and
does his own cooking and
laundry, she says. "I feel that,
as long as he stays indepen-
dent and on his own, the more
interest he has in life. In fact,
I find I'm more dependent on
him than he is on me" because
of his help with her limousine
business.
Former widower Max Kolar,
77, met his wife, Nancy
Adelman, an ex-widow, when
Nancy was collecting for a
charitable group in front of
Kolar's interior design studio.
Max had already donated
when he saw Nancy. "He just
passed me by," says Nancy, a
market researcher. "I thought,
`Boy, that cheapskate: So I
asked him, 'Don't you have
anything for me?' "
That caught Max's ear. He
dropped a couple of coins in
her collection box and invited
her out that night. She
responded, "I'm sorry, I have
a golf lesson?'
It was a week before she
agreed to a date, but "I really
started liking him," Nancy
says, noting Max was the on-
ly friend who wanted to visit
her mother in the nursing
home. Eight months later,
they married.
The two are very busy with
dancing, sports such as bowl-
ing and volleyball, taking
trips and doing charitable
work. Nancy still does
marketing research.
"I don't know if it's love —

it's companionship," Nancy
says. "It's caring — you have
to have someone to care for?'
And, too, she says, "I wanted
someone to lean on."
Lillian Rauch, 60, who is a
board member of the Senior
Extension Group for singles
over 50, says, "There are
women who are naturally flir-
tatious, and those that are not
suffer for it." She's even found
herself last in line at her own
club's dancing lessons, in part
because she's not flirtatious
and also because many seniors
come as couples.
Many seniors who have a
"steady" continue to attend
singles events with their part-
ners. The unattached singles
quickly learn whom to stay
away from, Rauch says.
Some women, she says, are
naturally vivacious and at-
tractive, and some can afford
plastic surgery to rebuild or
improve their looks, which can
lead to their dating the
younger men.
The result, says Rauch, a
divorcee, is "The men have the
best of all worlds. They have
the choices — and they make
the choices?'

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Conservatives
To Take Survey

A brief survey of interests
and availability will be
distributed to those attending
the Jewish singles Shabbat
service and program spon-
sored by the Conservative rab-
bis of Detroit at 8 p.m. tonight
at Congregation B'nai Moshe.
The survey will ask for pro-
gramming ideas for the
25-to-40-year age group and
will seek planning and ad-
visory participation.
The program following the
service will feature Dr. Ed-
ward Klarman discussing
stress in everyday life.

SPACE Reveals
September Topics

SPACE, Room to Grow, will
offer a special widow/widower
drop-in discussion group at
7:15 p.m. Tuesday at the
SPACE office in Southfield.
Drop-in discussion groups
regularly held on Wednesday
nights, are for those who are
separated, divorced or
widowed.
'lb register for Thursday's
group, call the SPACE office,
258-6066.
Two regular drop-in discus-
sion 'group topics in
September will be "Letting
Go,' scheduled for Wednesday,
and "Dating Again," planned
for Sept. 27. Both begin at
7:15 p.m.
There is no pre-registration.
On Sept. 19, at 7:15 p.m.
SPACE will sponsor a