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This is especially true in Jewish families and for Jewish fathers because they have grown up believing that their work will provide nachas (pride) for themselves and their parents." Schneider is encouraged that such leading Jewish in- stitutions as New York's 92nd Street YM-YWHA offer tod- dler groups for fathers and their children. But she would like to see workshops at JCCs on estate planning for men balanced by more workshops on family intimacy, and more thought given to providing baby-sitting at Jewish in- stitutions for men who attend meetings there and to recognize that fathers may be care-givers for their young children. But author Moskowitz is "amazed" at the extent of her son and son-in-law's care for their newborn children. "They truly share time with the babies with their wives," she said. Moskowitz was especially stunned a few weeks ago when her son took his baby with him to a United Jewish Appeal meeting in New Jersey — a meeting that he was leading. The Jewish father has come a long way from the biblical patriarch who owned all of a family's property and was its chief authority. According to Genesis and Psalms, he was expected to be benevolent and show love — and, also, pity — to his wife and children; his blessing back then carried the force of law. But maybe something has been lost in to- day's "humanization" of the father. Sometimes today, he is more of a pal than an authori- ty; often, he has lost either his taste for moral exhorta- tions — or the prerogative to issue them. It is difficult, for instance, to imagine today's father bequeathing the sort of deathbed advice that Rabbi Akiva offered to his son, Rab- bi Joshua, in medieval times: My son, do not sit and study at the busiest point of a town (where you won't be able to concentrate); do not live in a town whose leaders are scholars (because they are too preoccupied with their studies); do not enter your own house suddenly, and especially not your neighbor's house; and do not go without shoes. Rise up early and eat, in summer because of the heat and in winter because of the cold . . . ; and strive to be on good terms with someone upon whom the fortune of the hour smiles. The father of today, as will the father of tomorrow, seeks that optimal balance between authority and per- missiveness, between sweet indulgence and wise limits. As with any search for the op- timal, it is frustrating and, in the end, probably futile. But there is no denying that it is worth the effort. Ask any father. Ask any child. 0 NEWS 1 JTS Revises Rabbinic Requirements New York (JTA) — Students with limited Jewish backgrounds may find it harder to enroll at the Jewish Theological Seminary Rab- binical School, as a result of extensive changes in cur- riculum that will begin in September. The new admissions stan- dards will require certain