A SMALL AFFAIR
Is No SNIALL AFFAIR
WITH US.
At the Troy Guest Quarters® Suite Hotel—your
affair won't get lost in the crowd.
Because while our banquet rooms can ac-
commodate up to 250 of your friends and family
members, all of them offer a quietly elegant and
intimate ambience. And all of them lavish you with
our exclusive Guest Treatment:
Distinctive affairs from 10 to 250. Whether
you're planning a wedding reception, a birthday, an
anniversary, or a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, we can provide
the setting—and the service—to turn your special
occasion into special memories.
You'll appreciate our unobtrusive attention
to detail. Our promptness in heeding your special
requests. Our expertly prepared food and drink.
And your guests ...well they'll appreciate you.
So whatever you're celebrating, let us cater to
you at Guest Quarters.
For more information about how we can
make your event an affair to remember, call
(313) 879-7500.
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TROY, MI
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Who Pays?
beginning of hopefully solid,
respectful relationships.
But weddings are trying
occasions.
"Weddings are still the number
one problem people write about," says
Jeff Zaslow who replaced Ann
Landers at the Chicago Sun Times. "It's
sort of still the bride's wedding but the
couple's allegiances are to each other
first and to their families second."
Zaslow, a comparative newlywed
himself, married in July 1987, adds,
"A wedding should be whatever the
couple wants, if the money is there.
Remember," he warns, "it's not the
mother's wedding."
Aside from family queries, there
are other kinds of wedding expense
problems the Chicago advice
columnist faces.
"One letter I get all the time is
from bridesmaids and ushers
complaining about expenses for travel
and outfits. They ask if they still have
to buy a present. I tell them it's like
signing a contract. The big print says,
`It would be an honor to have you in
the wedding' while the small print
says, It's gonna cost you. I tell people
if they accept, they're in for the ride."
Zaslow mentions this query from
a woman stating, "My husband and I
are going to his brother's third
wedding in ten years. Are we obligated
to give the same amount as before?"
The answer: "If you can afford to be
a sport and you want to avoid trouble,
keep your gifts uniform. The latest
bride will appreciate your welcoming
her into the family with the same
enthusiasm you showed her predeces-
sors. I might, however, have different
advice for the fourth or fifth wedding.
Feel free to write back then."
Which brings us to expenses
concerning second, third, fourth
weddings and so on.
Charlotte Ford suggests that
when it's a second wedding, "The
bride and groom should give their own
wedding rather than ask parents to do
it again. Or a family member can give
it. My sister gave my second wedding:
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author of Charlotte Ford's Guide To