TACTION THE SIS T ERHO O D An old friend — even far away — makes a good sounding board D EVELYN K. ROOHK Special to The Jewish News ear Josie, Why am I writing you a let- ter instead of phoning? Because just once I would like to get a word in edgewise. Lengthwise and likewise, too! So maybe I'm a little jealous, Josie, that you're enjoying all that Florida sunshine while I'm sitting up here in Michigan. You always were the lucky one. Jealous, too, that you took Professor Yanoffski's creative writing class and are practically a famous author already with two articles published. To put my private thoughts down on paper for the world to see — such a nerve I haven't got. But to let them tumble out of my head for the eyes of an old friend .. . that even I can do. Mainly, it gives me a chance to "talk" while you listen for a change. I'm just kidding, Josie. You are my best friend who likes to talk a mile a minute, and I'm a good listener, no? Most of the time anyway. Sam says I'm easily influenc- ed by you. What influence? I should only learn to enjoy and live life like you do! Josie, you've become a real liberated woman, you should pardon the expression, while I am still from Dullsville. You know I married Sam when I was just a young girl, and never had an outside job like you did. Raising three kids, trying to make Sam happy, and keeping peace among all the in-laws — who had the time to be liberated? So you tell me the kids are grown now and on their own and I should live a little. It's not so easy to change the habits of a lifetime, Josie. My son, the psychologist, says I'm an introvert and you're an ex- trovert. Who needs such fancy words? I'm me and you're you and the world should need us both. Josie, you go to the supermarket and it's an adventure. Who else would meet a mysterious stranger among he cabbages and then discover he's a dropout from European royalty? Like the good parts of a soap opera your life is! Let's face it, we both are not getting any younger but on you it still looks good. In a couple of weeks I'll have another birthday. I can't believe it. I'll be . . . but you I don't have to tell. An old bag already — but deep down inside in a secret little part of me, I'm still that 18-year-old girl and Myrna Loy to boot. You know what I mean, Josie? Josie, I've made a decision. Not even Sam knows. I'm going to take painting lessons. Me, an artist. Don't laugh. If I can paint walls and furniture, why not a sim- ple picture? They call it being creative. Well, Sam helped me with all my other creations; this will be done by yours truly. Another thing. I'm taking your advice, going to the beauty shop and letting them tint my hair. I know, I know, I said wild horses wouldn't drag me. Sam says he likes me the way I am but you know when you've been married as long as we have, Josie, our husbands look but don't really see. A little paint and varnish on the out- side might make me braver on the inside. Josie, I'm beginning to get cold feet already but if I back down, you can show me this letter. I just reread what I wrote. What a lot of mish-mash but also the truth. An Ernest Hummingbird I'm not, but could he make a pot roast like mine? Well, Josie, I got this off my chest and will be waiting for your call as usual when you get back. Sam says I save a lot of wear_ and tear on your Norman's ears. Ha! Ha! Well, 'bye for now. Your esteemed confidant, (classy, huh?) Love, Selma Evelyn Roohk is a writer in San Juan Capistrano, Calif THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS 133