S t sat Grandpa's Cane A Symbo Of Strength And Respect By Ruth Zimmerman His grandpa was a very old man. Maybe 80 or 90 or 100, David wasn't sure. But his back was as bent as the handle of a teacup, and his eyes were soft and watery and pink. His hair, where it stragged out from beneath his hat, was yellowish and dry. David's grandfather seemed always to wear a hat — at home, on the street, in restaurants or visiting — a black furry felt, which hung low over his forehead and ears. And he always held a cane, whether he was sitting in front of the house or shuffling tiredly up Broadway for his exercise. It was a handsome cane, ebony, with ivory set into the crook and a gleaming silver disk on the shaft which read, "To Mayer, on his 50th birthday, from the many who love him well. David had never inquired too deeply into the history of the cane. It was just a part of Grandpa, like his hat or his old black suit or his voice, shaky but low and deep. are Jewish thoughts. And this is his see them. David giggled because tongue." he felt he had to, and as though the David did not understand. He old man were a stranger to him. didn't like the idea of Grandpa's One evening, about 5 o'clock, black felt hat. He didn't like the idea David was coming home from the of Grandpa's not speaking English. park. As he reached the corner of And he was ashamed of Grandpa in his street, his grandfather was just front of his friends. going up the little stoop of their He didn't even want to bring his house, leaning heavily on his cane. friends home with him from school. Suddenly David saw him stumble. He knew that Grandpa would be For an instant he tottered, grasping sitting in front of the door, leaning vainly for support and then he fell on his ebony cane, his pale eyes heavily down the three steps to the fastened on the pavement. Grandpa sidewalk. David ran. would look up and smile and hold out his hand. Suddenly, David saw him "Ah ha, yingele." stumble. For an instant, David would touch Grandpa's hand with the tips of his fingers and he tottered, grasping glance at his friends. Grandpa's vainly for support and Grandpa spoke hardly any English. smile would fade. The light which then he fell heavily down A few words here and there, but not for a moment had brightened the the three steps to the so that David could talk with him. misty eyes would die. sidewalk. Sometimes David could hear his "Ah ha, yingele," he would say mother and father speaking softly to in another tone of voice. Then, "Nu each other and saying how strange nu." He would shake his head "Oi, oi," his Grandpa moaned, it was that Grandpa had lived in slowly and reach in his pocket for a as he lay on the pavement, his coat America for 50 years and couldn't quarter or a 50-cent piece. all hunched arotrind him, his hat learn the langauge.- David would "Nem, nem. Take, take." As blown off, and his hair falling across interrupt rudely and say, "Well, why though the money could pay David his eyes. can't he, that's what I'd like to for his embarrassment. David knelled beside his know?" grandfather. First he brushed back It got so that David stopped But David's mother would look bringing his friends home altogether. the old man's hair. Then he picked gently across the room at her old up the hat and put it on his head, Once when he was walking on father-in-law and pat David's hand as though afraid that someone Broadway with the boys, they and say, "It doesn't matter, David. started to yell, "Old goat, old goat." might see him not properly clothed. Someday you will understand that it David glanced up and it was Then he put his arm around him doesn't matter. He has lived here for Grandpa shuffling ahead of them, and tried to get him up. But his 50 years, but in his own world — with his head bent low, and his Grandpa was limp and too heavy for with his own friends and his own yellowish hair straggling across his David to lift. work and his own thoughts. They collar. Grandpa didn't hear them or "01, oi," Grandpa moaned. L 6 - FRIDAY, OCTOBER 28, 1988 "Does it hurt, Grandpa? Did you hurt yourself?" But Grandpa only moaned and said "oi." David looked around wildly, not knowing what to do. There was no one on the street to help him, and he was afraid to leave Grandpa alone. "Mama, mama," David screamed again and again and again. It seemed a very long time before David's mother threw up the window, looked out and came hurrying down. Between the two of them they were able to hoist Grandpa up the stoop and into the elevator. Upstairs, they took off his coat and hat and put him gently to bed. "Mein schtecken," the old man moaned. "Vie is mein schtecken?" His cane! Where was his cane? David rushed downstairs. The cane lay on the street, broken nearly in two. When the doctor came, he said that no bones had been broken, nor had there been any physical injury to Grandpa, aside from a bruise or two. But the shock of a fall to such a very old man might be serious. Grandpa was to stay in bed until it was sure that his old heart would bear the strain. For many days Grandpa lay in bed, a small white bundle between the white sheets. He was so weak that he had to be fed, like a baby, and his wrinkled hands trembled on the coverlet. He kept the two pieces of the cane on a chair by his bedside, and every now and then he reached out to stroke then. And from everywhere in the city, as though the word of his illness had been carried by the wind, came visitors — men and women, all bent with age, misty- eyed, and gray. They congregated quietly around his bed and watched lest his heart give in. There were some who would not leave even through the night, but sat nodding in the darkness by the bed. They brought him chicken soup and home-made cakes and jams and bottles of grape wine. They read the Yiddish papers to him and washed him and changed his sheets. As leaves enfold a frail young flower, so did the little gray people enfold their old friend in tenderness. David watched. And as he watched, he wondered — wondered how wonderful must be his Grandpa to be so precious to his friends.