FICTION PHONE CALLS JANICE ROSENBERG Special to The Jewish News Art By Tim Mullin 118 FRIDAY, DECEMBER 11, 1987 \3›. 6 D 6r. Stem died," my mother tells me. As usual, I'm fixing dinner while we talk, the telephone propped be- tween my chin and shoulder. I listen, remembering Dr. Stern wrapped in a bar- becue apron, grilling hot dogs and ham- burgers while his kids and my brothers and I ran through the sprinkler. That wasn't so long ago, I think, then smile wryly to my- self — only thirty years or so. "Dad and I went to the service," she con- tinues. "It was at Thmple Beth Emet. His son-in-law did the eulogy. He's a rabbi." As my mother rambles on, I seek words of comfort. A few years ago, my response would have been an easy: "He was pretty old, wasn't he?" But recently it has oc- curred to me that my mother and father are also "pretty old" by most people's standards. My father's seventieth birthday party took place almost four years ago. He's been a surgeon for nearly forty years and still operates several times a week. My mother, who is younger by a few years, does hos- pital volunteer work. People who meet her for the first time are disbelieving when they learn her age. Both of my parents take part in synagogue activities and go swim- ming at the YMCA. Still, they are beginning to lose their friends, not accidentally or surprisingly, but, to be blunt, because they are old. The custom of nearly daily telephone calls between my mother and me began in the late sixties when I was married. She kept me up to date on suburban goings-on after my husband and I settled in the city. At first, as I rushed around my tiny kit- chen cooking dinner after work, the news was of marriages. "I ran into Judy's mother today at the supermarket," my mother might say. "She's marrying a boy from California." A few years later, her news told of the births of children. "Remember my friend Doris? Her daughter had twins," my mother would begin. I listened to long tales of pregnancy and birth, knowing she'd shared the arrival of my two sons with her pals and that they'd relayed these tidings to their children as well. Hearing the familiar names gave me a feeling of continuity. After my tenth high school reunion the divorce calls started coming. At least once a month, my mother heard of another dis- aster. "You mean he just walked out?" I might ask as I peeled potatoes. The in- evitability of these partings after the for- mal weddings and the sweet-natured babies shocked me. Listening as I set the table and waited for my husband to come home, I felt safe knowing that my mother was doing the same For a time after the divorces, there was nothing much to report. A few "kids" remarried, a few moved out of town. My in- terests changed gradually from homemak- ing to writing, but my chats with my mother over the price of lettuce or the new curtains for the bedroom retained their soothing quality. :