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At Syracuse University, trendily-dressed women last year risked being "JAPped" at football games. While walking in front of the stands, certain women were targeted by appearance by members of the pep band, who shouted "JAP JAP JAP," spreading the chant throughout the stadium. Among the graffiti cited from SU., Lilith reported such slurs as "Solution to the JAP Question: When they go for their nose jobs, have the doc- tor tie their tubes as well." `Stereotypes permeate," said Irving Levine, director of the AJComm ittee's national affairs department, at the conference. "AJP jokes are not benign. But reflecting on a history of prejudice should tell us and teach us they are lethal." "It (stereotyping) can choke or kill the group," he con- tinued, ". . and it's killing the chances of our forbears to live an effective life in socie- ty?' While JAP jokes are ac- cepted and told by many peo- ple, including Jews, the anti- Semitism inherent in them remains unnoticed, according to Susan Weidman Schneider, editor of Lilith. "It is hidden behind a scrim of misogyny," she said at the conference. Allowing these attacks on Jewish women ultimately permits "more direct and classic anti-Semitic jokes and verbal abuse," she added. Depiction of Jews as loud and vulgar, self-serving and dishonest traces back to the anti-Semitic tract Protocols of the Elders of Zion, Schneider explained. Jewish women must be alert to two implications of these jokes, according to Schneider. First, their self- esteem could be critically damaged by the stereotypes. Citing part of the Lilith series, Schneider told ofa stu- dent's encounter at State University of New York at Binghamton, where the word JAP was spray-painted on a dormitory door. But it was not clear whether the graffiti was meant for the young woman with the dozen expensive sweaters or her roommate with the high scores on her law school placement exams. "Jewish women are just do- ing what others are taught to do," said Schneider — to be self-sufficient and care about their appearance. She also warned that the relationship between Jewish women and Jewish men is be- ing harmed as both attempt to escape from this stereotype, often by distancing themselves from their Jewish identity. "This leads to a path to intermarriage and diluting strength as a community," she said. These barriers between Jewish men and women were first constructed in popular literature, noted Francine Klagsbrun, author of Married People: Staying Together in the Age of Divorce. She called Herman Wouk's - Marjorie Morningstar the "great- grandmother of Jewish princesses," and cited Brenda in Philip Roth's Goodbye, Columbus. "These were written by men trying to find their own voice in America," Klagsbrun said. "It's easier to show the pushiness —and vulgarity of Jewish women than to say how difficult it was to find their own way." women are still the targets of men's insecurities, accor- ding to Klagsbrun. Women struggle to balance careers and home lives and Jewish women are becoming religious and lay leaders, yet they are labelled as -spoiled, ridiculous princesses, she claimed. Klagsburn continued that when Jews use the term JAP, it is a code word for self- hatred, forcing Jews to set themselves apart from other Jews because of their own self-doubts and insecurities. When many of the women began to protest the issue in recent years, they were told to "lighten up," because JAP is just part of the language. But complacency, according to Schneider, is "being party to a dangerous coalition of anti- women, anti-Semitic feel- ings." Those attending the con- ference called for action to stamp out the term JAP. Mer- fish succeeded in persuading the rabbis in her community to realize the latent anti- Semitism inherent in JAP humor, and the Houston Rab- binical Council passed a resolution addressing the matter, a consciousness- raising act, as was the con- ference itself. AJC's • Houston chapter is also developing an educa- tional packet on JAP- stereotyping to be distributed to rabbis throughout the country. By overlooking the pro- blem, the Jewish community is abetting JAP stereotyping, according to Ruth Septee,