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or Cail
pern advised "to figure out
what Mr. or Miss Right is
and then develop those skills
yourself. If you have the
skills, then you are going to
attract people like you."
She also had advice for
singles who find loneliness a
part of their lives. In essence,
she said singles who are
lonely are choosing to be
lonely. If they would like to
change that situation, then,
Halpern urged, go out — take
risks — and connect with
people. "Learn how to
enhance your life. Be respon-
sible, take action for your-
self."
But in taking risks she
warned. "You've got to know
how to protect and take care
of yourself. That's a skill."
She called that opportunity
for taking risks "exploring
options," and considered it
one of singles' greatest
strengths. "There is the
strength of the opportunity
that we have to take time
with ourselves to figure out
and get in touch with our
power and our creative poten-
tial." She added that explor-
ing these options is a means
of surviving as a single.
And for singles looking to
be doubles, what does Hal-
pern advise? "It requires the
skill of coping with rejection,
developing your self-esteem
and having a love relation-
ship with (your) self so you
can be free to reach out." ❑
In order to "connect"
with people, communica-
tions specialist Barbara
Halpern advises singles to
start paying attention to
their own needs and
wants.
The next step is to de-
velop connecting skills.
These include: focusing on
the other person by asking
an open ended question
(what, how, where, but
avoid why because it puts
others on the defensive);
find a commonality and
"forget yourself."
Then, learn to make
choices for yourself and
learn to discriminate be-
tween people who enhance
your self-esteem and de-
tract from it. Enhancers
are your cheerleaders,
they support you and your
values, encourage you and
are interested in what you
do without making judge-
ments.
Avoid "drainers, clutters
and toxics," persons who
are concerned only with
their own well-being.
Finally take the steps
necessary to help you ful-
fill your wants and needs.
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it's important to share them."
In addition to communica-
tion skills, Halpern suggested
that it's necessary to have a
support system comprised of
a group of people who
enhance one's life. In her
workshop at the Birmingham
Temple, Halpern described
enhancers as people who
"support you and your value
system, encourage you to
reach your potential and
want to hear what your goals
are without making judg-
ments." Not everyone is an
enhancer, and singles should
be wary when they decide
with whom they want to sur-
round themselves.
For example, Halpern said,
avoid "drainers, clutterers
and toxics." Drainers are
people "who tire you with
their problems." Clutterers
are "non-listeners, unor-
ganized and don't acknowl-
edge your space." Toxics are
the worst; they are mean and
quick to make "attacking
statements." Singles need to
feel good about themselves —
they need to feel like winners
— and drainers, clutterers
and toxics give the opposite
signals, Halpern advised.
Singles give out signals in
their pursuit of Mr. or Miss
Right as well, according to
Halpern, and if they're not
connecting, then they're giv-
ing out the wrong signals. To
remedy this situation, Hal-
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Jerusalem (JTA) — Eliezer
Sheffer, head of the World
Zionist Organization's young
leadership department, says
he has the solution to the prob-
lem of intermarriage — a
worldwide computerized
Jewish dating service.
According to Sheffer, one of
the causes of intermarriage is
that many young Diaspora
Jews have little chance to meet
socially with other Jews, espe-
cially in small communities.
He said he got the idea for a
computerized dating service at
a meeting of young WZO lead-
ers from Europe last month. He
said they complained there
was a dearth of Jewish mar-
riage partners in small towns
in Italy, France and Greece.