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"I do see that a relationship of exclusivity is becoming more the practice. Some local Jewish singles, who requested anonymity, echo her senti- ments. Lawyer Robin D., 32, said she is very careful when it comes to sexual activity, and she doesn't want to have sex for sex's sake. "It's very difficult to look at sex as something apart from a special relationship. I want to have some involve- ment emotionally." Rhonda G., a professional woman in 'her 30s, concurred. "Exclusivity, absolutely," she exclaimed, and added that she also likes to give a relationship a few months to develop before get- ting sexually involved. Attor- ney Mark S., 36, say he too is more cautious. "I'm certainly more selective, especially with all the things going around to- day. A date should not be a death sentence." On a national scale, the sex- ual revolution of the '60s seems to be declining. William Novak, in his book, The Great American Man Shortgage, said a "counterrevolution" is actu- ally taking place as singles re- think their sexual priorities. "Significant numbers of single people are beginning to wonder whether the loosening of con- 4 ventional restraints on sex was such a good idea after all. To be sure, there were many people who didn't participate in the sexual revolution to begin with; the new sexual freedom was far from a universal phe- nomenon, and the spectators have always outnumbered the participants. But those who are now having second thoughts about the sexual revolution include many of the people who were most affected by it. And there, too, it comes down to women now in their 305." At the same time, Novak says, men, too, are starting to feel that maybe promiscuity is not such a great idea after all. Dr. Lipten said she felt that sex had a natural place in a dating relationship. But, she added, it shouldn't be entered into without some emotional involvement. "I think that if there is a commitment to a partner or a relationship with another human- being and we have two adults, the expres- sion of that takes the form of sexual behavior . . . it's a re- flection of good feelings." Dr. Lipten urges that singles use caution, then put sex into its proper perspective. "I do feel that the expression of sex -is a necessary and vital and good thing to occur between two people who have commitment to each other, who do care about each other." ❑ Questions To Ponder In The Second Jewish Catalog: Sources and Resources, edited by Sharon Strassfeld and Michael Strassfeld, the chap- ter on sex and sexuality offers guidelines for persons who are sexually active. Following is a list of questions one may ask before entering into such a relationship: Love: Is the sexuality of this relationship an expression of a depth of feeling that exists between us, or is the feeling generated only by sexual arousal itself? _ Knowing: Have the partner and I really come to know one another and see one another as full human beings or does this act remain a basically anonymous sexual encounter? Honesty: Have I presented myself in an untrue way (by words, dress or style) in order to win this sexual reward, thus making it more difficult for true knowing to emerge in this relationship? Degradation: Have I had to go someplace-(pick-up scene, bar?) or do something (pay in cash or favors?) that I consider personally debasing in order to get this partner, thus keeping myself far from true sexual fulfillment? Could I not find a partner in some more wholesome way? Consent: Do both of us really want this sexual contact, or has one of us fallen into it unwillingly, making it a contact in which both are disgraced? Special Singles Section =0 oriEoNONE ATHLETIC CLUB 6343 FARMINGTON ROAD • JUST NORTH OF MAPLE IN WEST BLOOMFIELD Are there any parties this weekend? What are Jewish singles talking about? Know an outstanding Jewish single? The Jewish News wants to feature it in the new Single Life section appearing every Friday. Address listings or story ideas to Single Life, c/o The Jewish News, 20300 Civic Cen- ter Dr., Suite 240, Southfield 48076. Items must be typed, double-spaced and include a contact name and phone number. Listings must be received at least two weeks prior to publication. - .4 -4