emotionally draining for a
first encounter. Also, don't
drink any alcohol, never ride
in the same car and don't
offer to pay for the other per-
son's meal.
"Always pay close attention
to the other person on that
first date to see how compati-
ble the two of you are. Pay
even closer attention on the
second and third dates. If
there are three things about
the other person that you
don't like go on to somebody
else.
"Don't stand for rudeness.
This includes inappropriate
behavior such as being late,
frequent phone calls or phone
calls early in the morning or
late at night."
Kellman and Levick jointly
advise, "be yourself," while

CALENDAR

COMMUNITY NETWORK
FOR JEWISH SINGLES
(25-45): Szechuan Gar-
den, 2855 W. Maple, Troy,
Szechuan dinner, 7:30
p.m. Monday; admission,
661-1000, ext. 347.

COMMUNITY NETWORK
FOR JEWISH SINGLES
(25-45): Brace Lederle
Field, Southfield, drop-in,
co-ed football, 10:30 a.m.
Sunday, free.

TOASTMASTERS:Main
Jewish Community Center,
meeting, 7:30 p.m. Tues-
day, free, 356-5369.

COMMUNITY NETWORK
FOR JEWISH SINGLES
(25-45): Main Jewish Cen-
ter, drop-in, coed vol-
leyball, 6:30 p.m. Thurs-
day, beginner; 8 p.m.
Thursday, advanced, ad-
mission, 661-1000, ext.
347.

B'NAI B'RITH FRANKLIN
SINGLES (30-45): Gre-
cian Gardens, 562 Mon-
roe, Detroit, dinner and
belly dancer show, 8
p.m. Saturday, no cover,
399-9196 or 581-6161.

B'NAI B'RITH FRIEND-
SHIP SINGLES (21-35):

Beech Woods Ice Arena,
Southfield, ice skating

party, 9:30 p.m. Saturday,
admission, meet at Max
and Erma's afterward,
522-2617; Willow Park
Apts. game room, elec.,
tion meeting, 7 p.m.
Wednesday 357-1871.

B'NAI B'RITH MICHIGAN
SINGLES: Tiffany club
house 29100 Tiffany Dr.,
Southfield, coffee and
conversation; admission,
268-7139 or 968-8445.

ROSE SHERER SOCIAL-
ITES: Jewish War Vete-
rans Memorial Home,
16990 W. 12 Mile, South-
field, pre-holiday dance,
8 p.m. Saturday; admis-
sion, refreshments, 355-
3761 or 548-6850.

Odom urges singles to go
slowly. "Stay focussed on
your own thoughts and feel-
ings as opposed to trying 'to
please the other person," she
said. Kellman advises singles
to trust their instincts. "If it
doesn't feel right it's probably
not right." Levick ad-
monishes men and women to
"be real. It's okay to be vul-
nerable. It's refreshing when
you can meet an unpretenti-
ous individual who's straight,
open and honest. You have to
have the ability to be em-
pathetic, to cue into messages
from the other person. , Be
open-minded enough to know
you won't please everyone
and not everyone will please
you."
The singles, too, had their
own words of wisdom.
Komisar advises: "Don't get
into any situation you can't
get out of. Have enough sense
to know what's going on,"
and to women, "make sure
you have 20 cents for a phone
call."
Rosenberg said "don't
push," while Smith suggests
that singles not try to be
something they're not. And
from Dr. West, "Don't tell
your whole life story, don't be
overbearing and don't be in-
secure or a wimp."
If dating a particular per-
son doesn't work out into a
long-term relationship or
marriage, then, Levick says,
don't worry. "It's not a per-
sonal defeat if it doesn't
work. If you can get past the
defenses then that's the key."
And how would Odom
evaluate dating in the '80s?
"As an open, honest, direct
exchange between two
people." ID

A RESTAURANT AND MUCH MORE!

Lunch Served Monday Through Friday 11:00 a.m. till 4:00 p.m.

Dinner Served Until 12:00 Midnight Monday Through Saturday

Nibbles and Dancing Till 2:00 a.m.

Now Accepting Reservations For
Our Joyous New Year's Eve Celebration
Call For Information On Our Complete Package

IN THE AMERICAN CENTER BUILDING
27777 FRANKLIN ROAD
-
Southfield
350-8450

BANQUET FACILITIES UP TO 175 PEOPLE

VISIT OUR OTHER LOCATIONS ... PANACHE IN BIRMINGHAM
AND MAVERICK'S IN ROYAL OAK

THE ONLY SPOT
IN TOWN
FOR JEWISH SINGLES

December 24, 1986
8:00 p.m.
Jewish Community Center
6600 W. Maple
West Bloomfield

Music Highlights
Center Party

Sheila Landis and Top
Drawer will provide music
and entertainment at "The
Only Spot in Town" party at
the main Jewish Community
Center at 8 p.m. Dec. 24.
The evening, co-sponsored
by The Jewish News, also
will feature refreshments and
a piano bir. There is an ad-
mission fee. For details, call
Babs Sepe or Jill Cole, 661-
1000, ext. 347. •

Shabbat Dinner
Club Takes Off

The Community Network
for Jewish Singles has a
Shabbat potluck dinner club.
The dinner clubs meet at
different members' homes on
a rotating basis. The program
is aimed at serving the needs
of singles of all ages and all
levels of religious observance.
Jewish singles of all ages
are welcome. For information
contact Jill Cole or Babs
Sepe, 661-1000, ext. 347.

Admission $7.00

Includes:
Piano Bar
Hors d'oeuvres
Refreshments

Live Entertainment!

Featuring

SHEILA LANDIS

AND TOP DRAWER

Co-sponsored by
The Community Network for Jewish
Singles and THE JEWISH NEWS

For further info contact: Jill Cole, 661-1000, ext. 347

105