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Lisa Lapides advises singles to enjoy their freedom

HEIDI PRESS

Local News Editor

Linda Radin

L

isa Lapides missed her
calling. Rather than
practicing public rela-
tions, she should have gone
into counseling for singles,
and if not counseling, then as
an advocate for single living.
"I think there's no shame
of being single at any age. I
think you have to be proud of
who you are. If you are
single, enjoy your freedom.
Know that every day you
have the freedom to make
new friends. There's so much
you can learn from
everyone."
Lapides, 30, of Birmingham,
said singles should not let
themselves be intimidated by
persons who pressure them
into getting married. "If
someone pressures you about
being single and tries to
make you feel inadequate,
realize it's their own insecu-
rity." Lapides adds: "there's
always time to be connected
and to be committed to one
person."
To avoid this pressure to
get married, Lapides followed
a plan which allows her to

Lisa Lapides

enjoy her singlehood. "I kept
looking for fun no matter
how I create it, whether it
was being with children or
being with my girlfriends or
being with my guy friends or
having a party in my home. I
created the fun instead of try-
ing to look for the fun and I
took the pressure off myself. I
think you've got to take the
pressure off and be secure in
yourself and keep looking for
the fun and keep looking for
your own self-enhancement."
In her spare time, Lapides

looks for self-enhancement
through a variety of activi-
ties: going to events, parties,
talking on the phone to
friends, being with family
and friends, reading and
playing tennis.
A native of Pontiac,
Lapides attended Birming-
ham schools and Kingswood.
She spent her freshman year
at the University of Tampa
(Fla.) and earned a B.S. de-
gree in communications and
public relations at Boston
University. She studied
briefly for an M.S.W. degree,
but decided that social work
was not her thing. "I need too
much immediate gratification
in my work and I'm too up
and I need up work. I felt it
(social work) was too drain-
ing for me."
Since graduation from col-
lege, she worked as an assis-
tant to Roone Arledge,
president of ABC News/
Sports in New York for three
years, but came back home to
be with her family. Back in
Detroit, she worked at the
Jewish Community Center
organizing activities for sing-
les and working on the
Jewish Book Fair. But the

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