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A lot of the better facilities have long waiting lists. "I waited for two years to get my mother into the Jewish Home for the Aged," says Miriam Sandweiss. "She would revert to speaking Yiddish, without realiz- ing she was doing so. I wanted her to be somewhere she would be un- derstood and comfortable." Finding homes which provide kosher meals, or facilitate reli- gious observance, can also be im- possible without. pre-planning. Moreover, it is important to "make the first placement the right one," says Alan Winer, ad- ministrator of the Bloomfield Hills Care Center. The first few weeks can be crucial to successful rehabilitation and change can be unsettling, sometimes danger- ously damaging. It is a misconception, says Winer, that nursing home place- ment is always a final step and a last resort. Many patients enter by choice and many are rehabili- tated sufficiently to return home. It is also a mistake, he says, to believe that no quality care exists. 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S. of Birmingham Theatre 642-9400 Major Credit Cards Accepted Casual Dress Birmingham Luncheon 58 Friday, June 27, 1986 Shuttle Bus Provided THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS 1/4 hurriedly and under stress. Check out several facilities, he recommends, and don't settle for substandard care. But be realis- tic, he warns. A $40 a day nursing home cannot and is not intended to provide the services of a $400 a day hospital. Feelings of guilt and inade- quacy make nursing home visit- ing very difficult for some rela- tives. "You have to remember," advises Miriam Sandweiss, "that however hard it is for you, it's harder for them. You must visit. They need your advocacy and support." Short, frequent visits can be more valuable and less tax- ing for .both patient and visitor than one long one. Volunteer work within the nursing home can give a sense of joint involvement as well as the opportunity to stop in frequently and maintain an easier, more natural contact. Sharing a favo- rite recreational activity can also lessen the awkwardness of the traditional bedside. visit. And re- miniscing, reliving happy, shared experiences, is not only one of the most effortless ways of making conversation, but, say psychol- ogists, one of the most therapeutic and rewarding activities for the elderly. Society today, says the Home for Aged's Charles Wolfe, tends to measure a person's worth by his productivity. Tried in this bal- ance, many old people feel a deadening lack of self-esteem. The most powerful antidote to this poisoriing sense of uselessness is family love, frequently communi- cated and clearly shown in con- tinued care. Showing it is not always easy. In fact it is often extremely dif- ficult. But perseverance can bring its own rewards, as Marlene Yamron attests. "Some good things came out of our experience. We all learned a lot, especially the kids. They learned compassion," she says, turning to her husband for cor- roboration. "I'm not afraid of how they will treat us when we get older." ❑ Looking For Help Some community sources of information and/or services: Area Agency on Aging, 29508 Southfield Rd., Suite 100, Southfield 48075. Tele- phone 569-0333. Regional planning organiza- tion for older persons in Livingston, Macomb, Monroe, Oakland, St. Clair and Washtenaw Counties. Services funded include: personal care, legal assistance, adult day care, congregate meals, em- ployment for older workers, services for vision and hearing impaired elderly, advocacy, homemaker, counseling, re- spite, home - delivered meals and outreach. Service priority is directed towards those in greatest eco- nomic and social need. Jewish Information and Re- ferral Service, 15110 W. Ten Mile Rd, Oak Park 48237. Telephone 967-HELP. Volunteer staff guide in- quirers to resources in the Jewish and general com- munities and make routine follow-up calls to ehsure that referrals are appropriate and services available. Jewish Family Service, 24123 Greenfield Rd., South- field 48075. Telephone 559- 1500. Services include: support group programs, respite or care-givers, counseling, apartment relocation and housing referral, homemaker, transportation, Meals-on- Wheels, advocacy and volun- teer visiting. Jewish Community Center, 15110 W. Ten Mile Rd., Oak Park. Telephone 967-4030. 6600 W. Maple Rd., West Bloomfield. Telephone 661- 1000. Services include: Diagnostic health screening program, kosher nutrition program, educational and recreational activities, inter-generational programs, and transportation. Jewish Home for the Aged, Borman Hall, 19100 W. Seven Mile Rd., Detroit 48219. Tele- phone 532-7112. Meyer L. Pre- ntis Manor, 26051 Lahser Rd. Southfield. Telephone 352- 2336. Fleischman Residence and Blumberg Plaza, 6710 W. Maple Rd., West Bloomfield. Telephone 661-2999. In addition to institutional care, catering to different levels of dependency, services include day care programs and community education on is- sues relating to the elderly. Citizens for Better Care, 28600 W. Eleven Mile Rd., Farmington Hills 48018. Tele- phone 476-2040 (Oakland, Macomb, Washtenaw, Livingston, St. Clair and Mon- roe counties). Telephone 962- 5968 (Detroit - Wayne County). A wide range of information and advice is also available in the publications of the Ameri- can Association of Retired Per- sons (AARP), 1909 K Street NW, Washington, D.C. 20049. Members are entitled to group insurance plans.