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Friday, April 4, 1986
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course.
While Children the Challenge
has taken up much of their time
and creative energy, it has
given them a lot of personal
satisfaction. Barbara explains,
"Children the Challenge has
changed my whole life. It's not
that there aren't problems, but
I'm comfortable handling them."
It's spring; the windows are
open. This yelling has got to
stop. But ... the kids are con-
stantly fighting! Rachel won't
clean up her room! Jessica re-
fuses to go to bed! Seth keeps
knocking over the plants!
Susan and Gordon Shlom,
veteran Children the Challenge
volunteer leaders, are used to
hearing these complaints and
others, from parents par-
ticipitating in their classes. This
spring, they are leading a Wed-
nesday night class and will have
ample opportunity to share their
own successes and failures, and
infuse others with their
enthusiasm for Dreikurs' "par-
enting techniques.
Gordon explains, "I've been
involved with Children the
Challenge for four years. I've
found it really necessary to re-
fresh my parenting skills as my
children grow. Each time, I gain
new insights and fresh ap-
proaches."
Susan points out, "It's impor-
tant that parents realize Chil-
dren the Challenge is not a
cookbook of what to do and what
not to do. It doesn't make per-
fect children or work equally
well with all children. It's not a
method which helps parents
manipulate their children."
What? Hopefully this last
statement made you gasp. "But
they need to be controlled," you
mutter. "They need to change
all of their awful behavior."
"Dreikurs advocates guiding
rather than ruling," Susan ex-
plains. "He emphasizes mutual
cooperation. Children the Chal-
lenge is a training manual for
both children and parents."
Gary adds, "It is Dreiktirs' be-
lief that parents need to change
their actions and attitudes first.
Then children will change in re-
sponse to their parents' change.!'.
Dr. Jeffrey London, a Bir-
mingham child psychiatrist,
says, "The importance of
Dreikurs or any other parenting
course, is the parents' willing-
ness to take part and see them-
selves as willing to change.
Whenever you write down what
happens or notice it objectively,
you can consciously or uncon-
sciously change it."
Central to Dreikurs' parenting
philosophy is his emphasis on
every child's claim to dignity
and respect. In the preface of his
book, he writes, "Parents need
to become a match for their
children, wise to their ways and
capable of guiding them without
letting them run wild or stifling
them."
David Maiseloff, director of
the Orchard's Children's Service
and a private practitioner, feels
very comfortable using
Dreikurs' parenting techniques
with clients and with his own
two children. "Dreikurs is at the
foundation of my beliefs about
child rearing. In creating the
groundwork of a strong, lasting
relationship, parents of small
children must show their child
respect, understand his behavior
and work on strong, open com-
munication. Dreikurs' philos-
ophy will save parents grief in
the long run."
Both London and Maiseloff
encourage the peer counseling
that Children the Challenge
classes offer, but caution parents
not to substitute a parenting
course for counseling if problems
persist. London explains, "In my
view, parenting classes work
well for those families already
functioning reasonably well,
with children within the range
of normal development and with
the typical behavior problems
that many children have." ❑
HIAS Officer
New York — Max M. Fisher
of Detroit was re-elected a vice
presidnt of the Hebrew Immig-
rant Aid Society at its annual
meeting.
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