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ents help when they're in trouble
and try to get them out of it in any
way they can, and then the kids
don't really appreciate the rules of
Restaurant owner Matley feels
the solution lies in family values,
and blames it on parents not ex-
pecting enough from their sons
and daughters. "If the parents
would say to them, 'Go out and get
a job' instead of 'Here's $50. Go get
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He adds he has difficulty get-
ting employees from the area be-
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Officer Nelson says, "People are
forgetting what having a job
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ally they are rude to the people
working the food counters.
Sixteen-year-old Dave, also
from West Bloomfield, rarely goes
to Tally Hall, preferring the
movies and going out on dates. He
sees the problem as stemming
from "kids trying to get attention
. . . from adults and other kids,
trying to act 'cool' and be better
than others." He labels this "their
morals, and not mine."
Dave feels the West Bloomfield
area is too competitive. He and his
family formerly lived in Oak
Park, and he doesn't like the atti-
tudes he sees around him now.
"Here everyone wants to have
more power, more things, more
money. The competing should
never have started."
He believes teenagers who get
into trouble are trying to see how
far they can go, and he's surprised
at the way several parents re-
sponded to their troublemaking
youngsters. Two girls he knows
were sent away to boarding
schools after their parents
learned of their behavior.
A third teenager, 16-year-old
Bill Bingham of Southfield,
blames the bad behavior on peer
pressure. "Some kids get into
trouble depending on the crowd
they're with at the moment. On an
individual basis, they probably
wouldn't do those things . . . Some
of the kids could use some direc-
Bingham says he is too busy
with classes, band, and his part-
time job at the Southfield-
Lathrup High School radio sta-
tion to get into trouble.
Is the more offensive behavior
some type of developmental stage,
a passage through adolescence?
Not according to a local
psychiatric social worker. John
Hribljan, of Henry Ford Hospi-
tal's West Bloomfield facility,
says a certain amount of rebellion
and asserting of one's individual-
ity is to be expected in this age
group, but extremely outrageous
behavior is not the norm. "There
seems to be a distortion of right
and wrong here. It is not O.K. to
vandalize. It is not O.K. to flaunt
power and all authority," he
Some of the teenagers in ques-
tion have threatened people with
lawsuits, as if to suggest their
parents will buy or bully their
way out of any difficulties their
children might face. The line goes
. . . "If you don't do what I want,
my father, who's an attorney (or
doctor, etc.), will sue you."
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Paul Cavan says sometimes par-
ents will not accept the fact their
son or daughter has done some-
thing wrong and will indeed try to
intimidate the person making the
complaint, setting a bad example
for the youngster.
Hribljan feels that too much
freedom and resources, in the
form of too much money, and no
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