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pen to your child than have
him marry outside your faith,
no matter how important that
is to you." Cautiously, they de-
cided to give Belinda,
Michael's fiancee, a chance,
and to try to get to know her.
Knowing her, they found her to
be, in Zach's words, "a won-
derful, wonderful human be-
ing."
"Right away," said Sylvia,
"she called 'Ma' and 'Pa.' She
showed such respect for our
religion, and I think that's be-
cause she's religious herself.
That was the part that sur-
prised us."
"We were thinking at first
that maybe she would convert
to Judaism
" Zach went on. "We wanted
that very much. But then when
we realized how religious she
was, we said to each other,
'How can we force her to give
up her religion? How would we
feel if he gave up his?' So we
didn't pressure them about it.
Now, what's interesting is that
he became more Jewishly reli-
gious because of her. To make
that possible, she keeps a
kosher home. She called up
Sylvia and asked her all about
the dietary laws. We were thril-
led."
"I'll tell you," Sylvia moved
in again, "all our friends adore
her now. Truthfully, I still get a
pang in my heart when I attend
a friend's child's wedding, and
it's a real Jewish wedding, and
Michael was married by a jus-
tice of the peace. Then I think
about her good qualities, and
how he told me he couldn't live
without her, and that has to be
enough. You learn a lot when
you're a parent, and especially
when you've been hurt. You
learn what you can insist on
and what you should keep
quiet about."
"We're keeping quiet about
something else now," Zach
said. "We're really keeping out
of something we both have
strong feelings about."
"You mean their not having
children?" Sylvia looked at
him.
"Yeah."
"They've decided not to have
children." She turned 'to me.
"They feel that in this world it
would be too hard for a child of
racially and religiously mixed
parents, even with all the
changes these days. Zach and I
think they're making a big mis-
take; we're longing for a little
grandchild from them, and be-
lieve me, I never thought I'd
feel this way. But they made a
life for themselves and they
know what's right for them. I
don't think it's our place to say
anything."
For the Newmans, the jour-
ney to that point at which they
could accept their own place in
relation to their son and his
wife had to be a difficult one. I
admired them for having made
it, and I admired Michael and
Belinda for having given them
the time and the chance to
make it, without pressing on
them or each other while they
did.

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"Happy New Year," he says
the excerpts just alluded to it as-
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That's where Klagsbrun tells her swers. She looks at him for a sec-
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