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Across From Tel Twelve Mall Southfield, Mich. 353-1300 Continued from preceding page shelving their lives, "putting ev- erything on the back burner until the right roommate, lover spouse fits us into the couple society." Let us not confuse issues. Communal attitudes are one thing. Attitudes toward self and how we perceive our personal lives are another, though each has an impact on the other. As indi- viduals we have more control over our own lives than over com- munal attitudes. If we put our lives on a shelf, it is our choice, not society's. Many singles have gone to school, started businesses, pur- chased and furnished homes while establishing satisfying life styles, reflecting positive values and inner personal strengths. They are not crippled by fantasies of waiting to be rescued, even if they believe a shared life would be better. It takes time for communal atti- tudes to catch up with social change. Traditionally we value the committed Jewish two-parent family where marriage never ends. We envision each family as part of a supportiVe community network entrusted with the re- sponsibility of passing on our cherished heritage. When statistics of divorce and mixed marriage indicate that the ideal is not always real, the com- munity know how to respond and is presented with the challenge of accepting and adapting to what is happening. We all recognize that without the capacity to adapt, Judaism would not be alive today. Although in greater number now, singles have always been with us. As Ms. Pastor points out, a shortage of men exists. Con- sequently many widowed, di- vorced and as-yet unmarried women will never find a mate. To wait for a man to "justify our existence" is a waste of life. This attitude is not only self destruct- ive but alien to basic Judaic be- liefs. Each unique individual is valued as a whole person, not less valuable when un-coupled. Also, life is viewed as too precious to put on hold. Singles like all other people need a supportive network to help cope with the emotional and eco- nomic realities of daily life. This is particularly true for single par- ents lacking adequate resources to raise children alone. There are many communal in- stitutions capable of supplying such support. When they accept the fact that the number of Jewish singles and single households is growing, perhaps singles will then find a place in the mainstream of Jewish communal life. Hopefully, this will occur be- fore those who feel alienated make choices away from the circle of Jewish life. What is the alter- native when the very survival of Judaism is at stake? Sylvia Druckman Leora Druckman LOCAL NEWS 11•111111111 ■ 1111111IM Actor, folksinger Bikel due at Campaign opening Volunteers for the 1985 Allied Jewish Campaign are hard at work in anticipation of a Cam- paign opening celebration featur- ing renowned actor and entertainer Theodore Bikel. The community is invited to "Be There" — joining with Bikel on Jan. 23 at 8 p.m. at Adat Shalom Synagogue for an evening of Jewish songs, lore and legends. There will be a dessert reception folowing the concert. A veteran stage and screen per- sonality, Bikel is recognized for his artistry on Broadway, in Lon- don and on television. He received special acclaim for his portrayal of Tevye in Fiddler on the Roof." Bikel has appeared in concert all over the United States and promised to return to Detroit after a performance celebrating the success of the 1983 Allied Jewish Campaign. Bikel's appearance will kick off a "Super Week" of activities to launch community-wide solicita- tion in support of the Campaign's beneficiaries here at home, in Is- rael and abroad. Prior to the opening, the Cam- paign Women's Division will begin its annual Phonogift appeal Theodore B ikel Jan. 20, and continue on Jan. 21, 22 and 27. A total of 300 volun- teers will take turns at the phones to reach more than 5,000 women in the metropolitan area. Also taking place is Federation-Campaign Sabbath, Jan. 25-26, a cooperative effort between the Jewish Welfare Fed- eration and area temples and synagogues. Caping the week's activities on Jan. 27 will be the biggest ,, S uper Sunday to date as 400 local volun-