22 Friday, June 15, 1984
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Special to The Jewish News
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Freedman, designed for people over 50
SPACE executive director, beginning every few
says the primary function of months; the next begins in
support groups is "to show September. Support groups
the participants that they for single parents of handi-
are not alone; their emo- capped and terminally ill
tions are common to children are also forming.
SPACE also offers work-
others." For this reason,
SPACE groups people ac- shops designed specifically
cording to whether they are for children of single parent
homes. On Sunday, Sept.
divorced or widowed.
New support groups 16, there will be a day-long
begin the first of each prgram for young people,
month and run four weeks. ages 8-18. Children will be
The group sessions begin encouraged to share their
with coffee and registration experiences and concerns in
at 7:30 p.m. and run from 8 small groups led by profes-
to 10 p.m. at the SPACE sional counselors. Each
office, 16400 W. 12 Mile Rd., SPACE program charges a
For further information
Each support group is led
by a volunteer "facilitator," or to receive their newslet-
who leads the group discus- ter, call SPACE, 557-9390.
sion. All facilitators are
trained professionals or
The Community Network
para-professionals who for Jewish Singles is
have also been divorced or primarily a social organiza-
widowed. Having gone tion. However, several on-
through a four-week group going programs reflect the
session as participants, they concerns of CNJS Executive
are now volunteering their Director Bruce Tabashneck,
services as group leaders.
that single individuals need
Rita Kaplan has been in- a "positive self-image in
volved with the SPACE order to form meaningful
program almost from its in- relationships." The lecture
ception when she sought out series meets throughout the
a support group to help her- year, offering nationally-
self through the aftermath known motivational •speak-
of a divorce. At that time, ers who deal with issues
although her married such as surviving crises and
friends were sympathetic, setting goals.
they couldn't fully under-
Workshops and confer-
stand what she was going ences, held several times a
through. She feels that the year, incorporate sessions
support group offers com- on positive thinking and
mon experiences and emo- ways to become a whole and
tions and gives instant ac- complete person.
ceptance and friendship.
Realizing that many sing-
The group even becomes an les feel alone and apart from
the Jewish community,
Today, Ms. Kaplan is the CNJS has initiated pro-
volunteer co-chairman of grams designed to build ties
SPACE and is also a group between singles and our
facilitator. She is quick to Jewish institutions. Singles
point out that the group ses- religious services, Onegs
sions are not meant to be and holiday celebrations, as
therapy or counseling. well as a June trip to Israel
However, they do help par- have been planned.
ticipants through the initial
The Informal Telephone
stages of grief and vulnera- Referral System is another
bility by extending mutual way CNJS tries to be avail-
respect; friendship and com- able for emotional support.
When you call 661-1000 and
Although people have dif- ask for extension 219,
ficulty coming for the first Tabashneck will answer
time, Ma. Kaplan has found your questions and refer
that many group session you to the proper resources.
participants will take ad- Through this telephone re-
vantage of other SPACE ferral system, Tabashneck
programs. SPACE offers has been able to help a
weekly and monthly drop-in number of people with dif-
groups; divorced groups fering needs.
meet each week on Wednes-
Barbara Chisik, CNJS
day and widowed groups the volunteer co-chairman, in-
SPACE is a program de- second Wednesday of each vites other single parents to
signed specifically for sepa- month. Spring and fall fam- join CNJS in order to create
rated, widowed and di- ily retreat weekends are programs which will meet
•vorced men and women and also popular. Families par- their needs. "We are in the
their families. Recognizing ticipate in workshops, sup- building stages and wel-
that newly widowed or di- port groups and activities come your input." CNJS has
vorced individuals need a focued to meet their needs. a newsletter and a Hotline,
peer network and a relaxed
Special interest support 661-4386, which list coming
environment for discussion groups are also held. Every events. Most events charge
of mutual problems, SPACE other month, on Sunday af- a nominal fee.
offers a continuous program ternoon, a workshop
Hopefully you will feel
of support groups, drop-in entitled "Mature People comfortable reaching out to
groups, educational work- Alone" is heid for those over one of these organizations.
shops and family retreat 50. There are also four-week They have a lot of emotional
support groups specifically ' ' euppbrt' tol Offer.' '
Q: I am a 35-year-old di-
vorced parent of two small
children. Where can I go for
A: The Detroit Jewish
community is constantly
trying to meet the needs of
an ever-changing society in
which single parenting due
to divorce or death has be-
come quite common.
Three organizations ad-
dress the problems and frus-
trations of single parenting.
Each offers a different ave-
nue for personal growth and
The Jewish Family Serv-
ice's trained clinical social
workers have provided
single parent families with
and a range of different
supportive servies for 60
years. SPACE, founded in
1978 by the National Coun-
cil of Jewish Women of
Greater Detroit, provides
peer support groups, and
workshops for divorced or
widowed men and women
who are in emotional tran-
sition. The Community
Network for Jewish Singles,
formed just over a year ago,
has organized a wide range
of activities and lectures,
creating a safe and relaxed
environment for Jewish
singles to meet one another.
Margaret Weiner, Jewish
Family Service's director of
professional services, feels
that the most serious prob-
lem facing a newly widowed
or divorced individual is
"loneliness and a sense of
isolation . . . feeling there is
no one to lean on." JFS's ex-
perienced social workers
help their clients struggle
against this pain, working
with families or individu-
als, offering both individual
therapy and group therapy.
Mrs. Weiner welcomes
your calls even if "you don't
have a big problem but just
want to check out your feel-
ings." Appointments can be
made within a week by cal-
ling 559-1500 and asking
for. the "intake desk." She
emphasizes JFS's "highest
standards of privacy and
confidentiality" and re-
minds that JFS "gives good
service to all the people of
our community. You don't
have to be rich or poor." JFS
has a sliding fee 'schedule
for therapy costs.