1 t I t. Federation/Campaign Community Forum (Continued from Page 26) Federation Leaders Led the Program Federation President Judge Avern Cohn opened the morning's event with greetings. He said the pro- gram was a departure from our perceived function," but "it comes out of a fine Fed- eration tradition: the corn- ing together of family to learn and express unity." Allied Jewish Campaign Chairman Joel Tauber also spoke briefly. He asked the audience "to become in- volved and participate in the Jewish community." He said he could forsee many problems in five years be- cause of increasing needs and decreasing income. Tauber added that the Federation and Campaign "must change our image, whether real or preceived, of being a narrow, cliquish, in-bred organization." As the audience was entering Adat Shalom, the Jewish Idea organ- ization which supports Rabbi Meir Kahane cir- culated a leaflet accusing Federation of paying for anti-Israel spokesmen to speak at the event. Coping With Grief Jewishly By ALLAN M. BLUSTEIN ways and means for coping with this inevitable grief. Helping people cope with Judaism, for example, de- losses of all kinds is one of votes much time, effort and the most formidable parts of space in its sacred literature a pastor's role. Since none of to prescriptions designed us is immune from the los- both to aid in dealing with ses brought about because loss and working through of death, divorce, job dis- some elements of the grief missal, economic factors process (i.e. depression; and the like, we therefore loneliness; guilt; anger; grieve over these losses. helplessness and finally re- Through the centuries, newal). all the major faiths have of- Excessive grieving is dis- fered their believers various couraged by Judaism since it implies that the mourner feels more pity than does God Himself. 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Therefore the conversation should be restricted to praise of the deceased while the visitors must not reflect about the ways of God (i.e. "What can one do if it's the will of Heaven?" etc.). As they depart, the com- forters say, "May the Al- mighty, comfort you among all the mourners for Zion and Jerusalem." Jewish' Law goes on to prescribe many prohibi- tions and exemptions. The main thrust of the Jewish grief process though, is to ef- fect a meaningful "working through" of the problem, rather than encouraging any unhealthy avoidance or withdrawal from it. Oddly enough or perhaps not so oddly, this approach is fully in accord with con- temporary theory on coping with grief (even if the former is thousands of years old). The leaflet accused Sisco and Linowitz of wanting to "push Israel back to 1967 borders" and said Sunday's forum was part of a cam- paign to turn the American Jewish community against Israel. Expanded Services Cal! 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