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Federation/Campaign Community Forum
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Federation Leaders
Led the Program
Federation President
Judge Avern Cohn opened
the morning's event with
greetings. He said the pro-
gram was a departure from
our perceived function," but
"it comes out of a fine Fed-
eration tradition: the corn-
ing together of family to
learn and express unity."
Allied Jewish Campaign
Chairman Joel Tauber also
spoke briefly. He asked the
audience "to become in-
volved and participate in
the Jewish community." He
said he could forsee many
problems in five years be-
cause of increasing needs
and decreasing income.
Tauber added that the
Federation and Campaign
"must change our image,
whether real or preceived,
of being a narrow, cliquish,
in-bred organization."
As the audience was
entering Adat Shalom,
the Jewish Idea organ-
ization which supports
Rabbi Meir Kahane cir-
culated a leaflet accusing
Federation of paying for
anti-Israel spokesmen to
speak at the event.
Coping With Grief Jewishly
By ALLAN M. BLUSTEIN
ways and means for coping
with this inevitable grief.
Helping people cope with Judaism, for example, de-
losses of all kinds is one of votes much time, effort and
the most formidable parts of space in its sacred literature
a pastor's role. Since none of to prescriptions designed
us is immune from the los- both to aid in dealing with
ses brought about because loss and working through
of death, divorce, job dis- some elements of the grief
missal, economic factors process (i.e. depression;
and the like, we therefore loneliness; guilt; anger;
grieve over these losses.
helplessness and finally re-
Through the centuries, newal).
all the major faiths have of-
Excessive grieving is dis-
fered their believers various couraged by Judaism since
it implies that the mourner
feels more pity than does
God Himself. In accord with
this, any public mourning
for honored and beloved
leaders is not to exceed 30
days (even for Moses him-
self, Deuteronomy 34:8).
The Talmud divides the
Ng micro
mourning period into
four segments: the first
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The interval between
death and burial (i.e. aninut
or "deep grief') is a time
when the mourner does not
eat with company nor par-
take of wine and meat. After
burial, the mourner sits on
either the floor, a low bench
or box and reads the Book of
Job, having already per-
formed the kriah or "rend-
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the burial.
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tils (signifying death).
As stated in the Book of
Job (29:25), the mourner
sits in the forefront of the
room as the comforters
visit to offer consolation.
"Silence," says the Tal-
mud, "is the price of conso-
lation in a house of mourn-
ing (basing it on the fact
that 'Aaron held his peace'
when notified of the deaths
of his sons, Nadab and
Abihu — Leviticus 10:3).
Therefore the conversation
should be restricted to
praise of the deceased while
the visitors must not reflect
about the ways of God (i.e.
"What can one do if it's the
will of Heaven?" etc.).
As they depart, the com-
forters say, "May the Al-
mighty, comfort you among
all the mourners for Zion
and Jerusalem."
Jewish' Law goes on to
prescribe many prohibi-
tions and exemptions. The
main thrust of the Jewish
grief process though, is to ef-
fect a meaningful "working
through" of the problem,
rather than encouraging
any unhealthy avoidance or
withdrawal from it.
Oddly enough or perhaps
not so oddly, this approach
is fully in accord with con-
temporary theory on coping
with grief (even if the
former is thousands of years
old).
The leaflet accused Sisco
and Linowitz of wanting to
"push Israel back to 1967
borders" and said Sunday's
forum was part of a cam-
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Jewish community against
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Friday, February 11, 1983
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