34 Friday, July 9, 1976

THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS

Divorcee Often Suffers Rejection by Married Friends

BY BEN GALLOB

by married persons, accord-
ing to a Jewish Family Serv-
ice expert in Los Angeles.

(Copyright, 1976, JTA, Inc.)

Married people often de-
sert their recently divorced,
friends at a time when they
most urgently need support
and friendship. The single
person "on the loose" is
viewed as "a sexual threat"

Deborah Sheby, eastern
area coordinator of JFS
services, also commented
that "the experience of con-
fronting a now-single friend
often awakens a married
person's fear of singleness."
The JFS program of help to
such singles is based on the
premise that separation
from one's spouse is only
the first in a series of sepa-
rations the single person
must face, according to Ho
Kinsler, acting director of
the West Los Angeles dis-
trict of the JFS, an agency
of the Los Angeles Jewish
Federation Council.

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She said such a single per-
son "feels abandoned by the
`coupled' society to which he
or she used to belong. Cou-
ples have a 'friendship sys-
tem' which is composed of
other married people. When
an individual changes mari-
tal status, he or she no
longer fits into that struc-
ture." What usually hap-
pens, she added, is that the
newly single person discov-
ers that social calls from
friends become fewer and
fewer and that party invita-
tions may stop altogether.
In effect, she said, this con-
stitutes a second very real
and painful separation.

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The single man, in addi-
tion to feeling alienated
from friends, feels increas-
ingly isolated from his
family and is hit hard by
his loss of role as a father,
Ms. Kinsler remarked. "A
man moves out of his
home, perhaps initially
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but "soon he realizes that
he is alone. His children,
who are part of him, have
been taken away," since
custody is usually
awarded to the mother,
"and he becomes a dis-
placed parent."
She asserted also that
what makes the separation
from children even more
painful for many Jewish
men is the "passionate de-
sire" to carry out the Jewish
tradition of fathering. She
said "the strong Jewish
ethos of parental responsi-
bility toward offsprings
creates an anguished con-
flict for many men who feel
they are fading from the
family picture."
The newly single person
faces suffering in the sepa-
rations on the religious and
community level. Ms. Kin-
sler remarked that "single
people feel uncomfortable in
the temple and the organ-
ized Jewish community be-
cause they feel they are
being viewed as failures.
Many are unable to pay
costly temple membership
fees so they feel barred
from participating in reli-
gious life" for that reason.
The two JFS staffers
agreed that very often the
synagogue and the Jewish
community do discourage
the singles from becoming
involved by their failure to
reach out for them, al-
though on the brighter side,
several area synagogues
have recently begun to deal
with such singles in a more
sensitive and understanding
way.
Ms. Kinsler said one
way to bridge the "sepa-
ration gap" is to start to
break down some of the
long-held and fallacious

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