60—Friday, Sept. 28, 1973
MRS. ROSE
BECKERMAN
Best ll ishes Ear .1
)car Filled with
Health and Happiness
Advise Me . . •
wishes all her friends,
relatives and Chaverint a
happy, healthy and
Peaceful New tear
"EDIE" FISHER
With this issue, The Jewish News launches a new ser-
vice for its readers, an advice column which will attempt
to answer many of the personal questions that crop up in.
everyday life.
To help answer questions that are submitted to The
Jewish News, we have called upon trained social workers
and guidance counselors from the Jewish Family and Chil-
dren's Service. However, other resources will be called
upon as problems arise in other areas. Identity of the ques-
tioner will be kept confidential.
Please address all queries to "Advise Me," care of The
Jewish News. 17515 W. Nine Mile, Southfield, Mich. 48075.
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Best Wishes For A
Happy, Healthy New
Year To All Our
Relatives and Friends
Harvard Row
Barber Salon
MRS. JACOB FISHMAN
18284 Steel, Detroit
JOSEPH and
MYNNE EDWARDS
22040 Westhampton
Oak Park
Manicurist
extends best wish es to
all her friends and
relatives for a good
• and healthy New )ear
Mr. & Mrs. Meyer I. Cooper
16198 Oxley Rd., Apt. 103
Southfield, Michigan 48075
extend best wishes for a happy,
healthy and peaceful-year to
all their relatives and friends
MR. and MRS. SIGMUND LITTMAN
AND FAMILY
13100 Northfield Blvd., Oak Park
extend best wishes for a happy,
healthy and peaceful Year to all
their friends and relatives
Our daughter. who is a senior at college, works part-
time but depends ,upon us financially for her tuition and
housing. She has just announced to us that she is now shar-
ing her apartment with her boyfriend and they do not
have marriage plans. We have nothing against the young
man as a person but cannot condone what she is doing.
My husband and I feel that if we continue to support
her, we are in effect giving her our permission to behave
in a way which runs counter to what we feel is right. We
are afraid that if we cut off funds we will lose her. We
are frankly at a loss to know what to do. —Puzzled parents
Dear Puzzled:
This is a common problem of our fast-changing times
and our slower-to-change values. Have you shared your
thoughts and feelings with your daughter or have you been
having a closed-circuit conversation between yourselves?
Your decision (whatever it may be) affects all of you and
the relationship you have had in the past and will have to-
gether in the future. Your combined decision needs to
take into account what that relationship means to all of
you. Whatever you decide, make every effort to keep open
your communication with your daughter.
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MRS. HARRY RUBENFIRE
extends to all her family and
friends a wish for a year of
good health and happiness
MR. and MRS. EDWIN J. SCHIFF
25824 Arrowhead — Southfield
extend best wishes for a
year filled with health and
happiness to all their
relatives and friends
MR. AND MRS. LEO WEBER
AND SONS
6588 Beverly Crest Dr., West Bloomfield, Mich.
wish all their friends and
relatives a year of health
and happiness and peace
Dr. and Mrs. Joel Hamburger
and Family
23511 Sussex, Oak Park
extend their best wishes
to all their relatives and
friends for a health and
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Sincere Wishes for a
New Year Filled with
Health, Happiness and Peace
MR. and MRS.
PAUL ZUCKERMAN
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I am 6'7, and my wife is 60 and not eligible for Medi-
care yet. We are living on my Social Security plus a small
pension. It is not enough money and we are always strug-
gling. We havie no savings. Our big problem is meeting
doctor bills and medicines. Sometimes my wife won't see
the doctor because we just can't afford it. She does not
feel well, and we do not know what to do.
—Barely Making It
Dear Barely:
Your return address indicates you live in Northwest
Detroit and are. therefore. eligible to use the Shiffman
Clinic at Sinai Hospital. They offer a complete medical
service based on ability to pay. Call 272-6000 for an ap-
pointment.
THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS
IRVING & LILY BELINSKY
wish to extend best wishes to all
their friends and relatives
for a happy, healthy and
prosperous :New 'I ear.
nuo rur5
The Brummer Family
24221 Berkley
Oak Park, Mich. 48237
PEARL & BEN GUYER
AND FAMILY
of 11 Cheshire Terrace
W. Orange, N.J. 07052
Ulish all our relatives and friends
A Year Filled with Health
and Happiness and Peace
MR. & MRS. ABE SCHWARTZ
and
MR. & MRS. BURTON OSBORNE
of Doors Galore
22605 Schoenherr, Warren, Mich. 776-3266
wish their friends, relatives and customers
A Very Happy, Healthy New Year
We have two normal, healthy girls. but our youngest
child, a boy of 5, was born retarded. He is a sweet, good-
natured boy who has learned to dress himself and at by
himself. My Problem is my wife, who devotes all her
energy and time to raising and teaching Jimmy. She is
too tired to go out, too tired to have friends over. snaps
at the older children. and isn't loving to me. I tell her
that she isn't fair to the girls or to me, but all she says is
that she has to give Jimmy more because he needs more.
It's destroying our relationship and our family life. Please
tell me what to do. —Dad
Dear Dad:
Your wife is probably feeling guilty over having given
birth to a defective child. Since she feels responsible for
the fact that he is retarded, she tries to make -IT for it by
devoting all her energy and attention to him. She needs to
understand that birth defects do occur, unfortunately, and
they are not necessarily to be blamed on the parents. It is
good to teach Jimmy, but not to the detriment of your
family life. Try to get her to talk about her feelings to
you, but if that doesn't help, get her to a professional, such
as a psychiatrist or social worker at the Jewish Family
and Children's Service.
I am a middle-aged woman who has been a widow
for a year. I have few friends and have never worked
outside the home. I don't need money but would like some-
thing to fill my time in a constructive way. —Bored
Dear Bored:
Jewish Family and Children's Service has a volunteer
program which might fit your needs. They are looking
for people who can be of help to others by giving com-
panionship to elderly people, providing needed transporta-
tion, phoning lonely shut-ins. etc. If you are interested,
call Helpline at DI 1-5959 between 8:30 a.m. and 5 p.m.
We have been in a supper club with five other couples
for the last four years. These are all our good friends
and we have had great times together. Recently, one of
the couples have urged the rest of us to try group sex. My
husband wants to go along with this. I'm really upset. It
is causing terrible tension and fights 'between us. What
should I do? —Unhappy Wife
Dear Unhappy:
Any problem which causes so much friction and seems
unresolvable needs to be looked at. Is this the only area
of disagreement between you? I suspect there are more
problems than just to swing or not to swing. I think you
two need to examine your relationship and what is hap-
pening in your marriage. I strongly suggest getting profes-
sional help if you don't work it out together very soon.
You can get the name of a certified marriage counselor
from, or call for an appointment at, the Jewish Family
and Children's Service, DI 1-5959.
wish all their relatives and friends
a year filled with health, happiness
and prosperity.