Miss Harriett Jo Stotzky 'Men and Marriage' : Marriage Brokers, Is II' e(1 to John Heitkamp the Shadhan and Related Subjects THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS 24—Friday, July 10, 1970 Detroiter Lee Shulman Suggests Ff hen to See a Psychologist' With this innovation in writ- By LINDA ASHLEY ing psychology for laymen, the "Corinne is not a child, she is book is a great service. It is not 20 years old: but she is immature an interesting psychological text, even though—or perhaps because it is a serviceable book for the —she has been given a great deal person troubled about himself or of freedom by her parents." someone close to him. The story of Corinne is one of "This book should help you gain over 100 case histories that co prise the bulk of When to See a a sense of the dynamics of psycho- problems," it says. "To ' Psychologist" Psychologist" by Detroiter Lee M. Shulman and Joan Kennendy Tay-1 understand your own behavior, you for (Nash Publishing Corp.. Los ! have to know how to relate it to Angeles.) The histories of these more ! general principles and ideas. people's problems and how they That is one reason we have tried to developed are written in story-tell-' give you many examples of differ- ing fashion devoid of technical' ent problems, so that you can see terms. ; for yourself what it is they have Shulman, a practicing psycho- ! in common." The authors can expect this kind MRS. JOHN HEITKAMP logist of 21 years, works out of , offices in Detroit as well as New , I of investment by a troubled person I using the book for consolation and Harriett Jo Stotzky was wed to York City. "We have discussed problems as advice. It is, again, a service, John Kenneth Heitkamp in a re- especially to those who may be un- cent evening ceremony at the we actually experience them rather ! than as the psychologist will ana- able or too embarrassed to talk to Kingsley Inn. Rabbi M. Robert someone individually or have been Syme and Cantor Harold Orbach lyze them" . . the authors say, dissatisfied by recent advice. officiated. "because this is the way a per- ' It is redundant reading for any- Parents of the couple are Mr. son has to first approach them in ! one else. and Mrs. Louis Stotzky of Harbor life." ! The first part of the book dis- Lane, Southfield and Mr. and Mrs. cusses psychological functioning, E. K. Heitkamp of Sussex Ave. explaining terms like repression The bride wore a gown with ap- and subconscious. The case his- pliqued peau d'ange embroidered tories (Part II) are based on this with crystals and seed pearls. It simple store of knowledge about had a controlled A-line skirt, psychological phenomenon. loosely draped sleeves, high neck- The most concretely valuable line and detachable watteau train. part of the book is Part HI, (per- She carried three long-stemmed haps it should be read backwards) roses on her confirmation Bible. which tells how one can introspect Mrs. Alan Stotzky served the himself and how to be prepared bride as matron of honor. The for a psycho therapist. It also bridesmaids were Mrs. Paul IT STICKS TO THE answers that always-asked ques- Aida of Kalamazoo, Mrs. Reid SPAGHETTI tion, "What's the difference be- Heitkamp, Mrs. Gary Levitt of tween kinds of therapists?" In' Ann Arbor and Judy Goldstein. some detail and with examples, it Reid Heitkamp served his gives background on each kind of ' brother as best man. Ushers were therapist and how that kind A Alan Stotzky, brother of the bride; therapy operates. John De Carle of Flushing, Mich.; Although the title of the book 1 Alan Socall and Richard Smitley. refers to only one of these kinds Also in the bridal party was the j of therapists, the psychologist, ' bridegroom's grandfather, E. P. the book is quite unbiased within Heitkamp of Madison, Ind. its covers. It emphasizes the im- After a honeymoon in the Ba- portance of therapy and not any ' hamas, the couple will reside in particular kind. Royal Oak. The book is an honest one. It is not out to sell the psychological profession, although it gives that impression at first. It gives ample warning on over extending the symptoms one may recognize in the Mrs. Manny Silverman of South case histories. And it emphasized field Rd., Southfield, announces the idea of trying to understand ' the engagement of her daughter oneself and not relying totally on Donna Lynn to James Patrick the therapist. Brennan, son of Mr. and Mrs. One of the chapters, entitled Harold Brennan of Guy Ave., "Miseries Without a Cause," con- Southfield. Miss Silverman is the cludes, "All miseries have causes. daughter of the late Manny Sil- It is when people try to avoid their verman. The bride-elect is gradu- problems or try to will themselves ating in June from Wayne State into being . . . that they can build University's school of education. Your family will love it—so thick up a situation in which they are Mr. Brennan is a senior at Wayne it sticks to the spaghetti, never confronted with seemingly cause- State University, majoring in dis- less problems." sinks to a pool on your plate. tributive education. A December wedding is planned. Every bit of its real Italian ta'am atless Weftige yet so eg4 og.ardee "Men and Marriage" is almost like a promotional work. Its factual material is based on the question- naires that were issued by the London Bond Street Marriage Bu- reau. Heather Jenner, owner of this bureau, co-authored the book (published by G. P. Putnam's Sons) with Muriel Segal. The text starts with the Private and Confidential Questionnaire of the Marriage Bureau. Established in 1939, more than 15,000 husbands were introduced to their wives by this bureau. In the process of the bureau's experiences, many of the ideas incorporated here developed. Thus, the views of men on marriage, their preferences, the search by wives for men who look like actors, the desire for money, the good and the bad, the many successes and some fail. ures, are delineated. What happens when a man mar- ries again, how do the women re- act, what are the attitudes towards divorce—there are scores of ideas that emanate from this work. We learn, for instance: "Those who are divorced are more resili- ent. Their experience has been less tragic, and they are apt to take the results of a broken home in their stride, however great the difficul- ties." We are informed that barriers usually tumble and the marriage brokers in the Heather Jenner in- stance are in some degree opti- mists. The traditional Jewish shadhan is discussed and gets a place of honor. Regrettably, this function is not properly described. It could have gotten a more ade- quate historical definition. It is incomplete. Social aspects, education, the changing attitudes in the present generation—these are some of the elements that stem from the au- thor's 30-year experience. While it is not revolutionary, "Men and Marriage" is instructive and it adds considerably to an ap- preciation of the marriage broker business and the process of selec- tion in choosing life's partners. Mrs. R. Leibick Fine Color Photography For all occasions Moderate Prices! HAS MOVED New Phone 399-1251 HAL GORDON MUSIC i.! For All Occasions BIG BANDS or SMALL COMBOS 642-5520 Spaghetti 8agagements Chef Boy-Ar-Dee three meatless sauces: Meatless, Mushroom, Marinara. 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