Miss Harriett Jo Stotzky 'Men and Marriage' : Marriage Brokers,
Is II' e(1 to John Heitkamp the Shadhan and Related Subjects
THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS
24—Friday, July 10, 1970
Detroiter Lee Shulman Suggests
Ff hen to See a Psychologist'
With this innovation in writ-
By LINDA ASHLEY
ing psychology for laymen, the
"Corinne is not a child, she is
book is a great service. It is not
20 years old: but she is immature
an interesting psychological text,
even though—or perhaps because
it is a serviceable book for the
—she has been given a great deal
troubled about himself or
of freedom by her parents."
someone close to him.
The story of Corinne is one of
"This book should help you gain
over 100 case histories that co
prise the bulk of When to See a a sense of the dynamics of psycho-
problems," it says. "To '
Psychologist" by Detroiter Lee M.
Shulman and Joan Kennendy Tay-1 understand your own behavior, you
for (Nash Publishing Corp.. Los ! have to know how to relate it to
Angeles.) The histories of these more
general principles and ideas.
people's problems and how they That is one reason we have tried to
developed are written in story-tell-' give you many examples of differ-
ing fashion devoid of technical' ent problems, so that you can see
terms. ; for yourself what it is they have
Shulman, a practicing psycho- ! in common."
The authors can expect this kind
MRS. JOHN HEITKAMP
logist of 21 years, works out of ,
offices in Detroit as well as New , I of investment by a troubled person
I using the book for consolation and
Harriett Jo Stotzky was wed to
"We have discussed problems as advice. It is, again, a service, John Kenneth Heitkamp in a re-
especially to those who may be un- cent evening ceremony at the
we actually experience them rather !
than as the psychologist will ana- able or too embarrassed to talk to Kingsley Inn. Rabbi M. Robert
someone individually or have been Syme and Cantor Harold Orbach
lyze them" .
. the authors say,
dissatisfied by recent advice.
"because this is the way a per- '
It is redundant reading for any-
Parents of the couple are Mr.
son has to first approach them in !
and Mrs. Louis Stotzky of Harbor
! The first part of the book dis- Lane, Southfield and Mr. and Mrs.
cusses psychological functioning, E. K. Heitkamp of Sussex Ave.
explaining terms like repression
The bride wore a gown with ap-
and subconscious. The case his- pliqued peau d'ange embroidered
tories (Part II) are based on this with crystals and seed pearls. It
simple store of knowledge about had a controlled A-line skirt,
loosely draped sleeves, high neck-
The most concretely valuable line and detachable watteau train.
part of the book is Part HI, (per-
She carried three long-stemmed
haps it should be read backwards) roses on her confirmation Bible.
which tells how one can introspect
Mrs. Alan Stotzky served the
himself and how to be prepared
bride as matron of honor. The
for a psycho therapist. It also
bridesmaids were Mrs. Paul
IT STICKS TO THE
answers that always-asked ques-
Aida of Kalamazoo, Mrs. Reid
tion, "What's the difference be-
Heitkamp, Mrs. Gary Levitt of
tween kinds of therapists?" In' Ann Arbor and Judy Goldstein.
some detail and with examples, it
Reid Heitkamp served his
gives background on each kind of ' brother as best man. Ushers were
therapist and how that kind A Alan Stotzky, brother of the bride;
John De Carle of Flushing, Mich.;
Although the title of the book 1 Alan Socall and Richard Smitley.
refers to only one of these kinds
Also in the bridal party was the
of therapists, the psychologist, ' bridegroom's grandfather, E. P.
the book is quite unbiased within
Heitkamp of Madison, Ind.
its covers. It emphasizes the im-
After a honeymoon in the Ba-
portance of therapy and not any ' hamas, the couple will reside in
The book is an honest one. It is
not out to sell the psychological
profession, although it gives that
impression at first. It gives ample
warning on over extending the
symptoms one may recognize in the
Mrs. Manny Silverman of South
case histories. And it emphasized field Rd., Southfield, announces
the idea of trying to understand ' the engagement of her daughter
oneself and not relying totally on Donna Lynn to James Patrick
Brennan, son of Mr. and Mrs.
One of the chapters, entitled Harold Brennan of Guy Ave.,
"Miseries Without a Cause," con- Southfield. Miss Silverman is the
cludes, "All miseries have causes. daughter of the late Manny Sil-
It is when people try to avoid their verman. The bride-elect is gradu-
problems or try to will themselves ating in June from Wayne State
into being . . . that they can build University's school of education.
Your family will love it—so thick
up a situation in which they are Mr. Brennan is a senior at Wayne
it sticks to the spaghetti, never
confronted with seemingly cause- State University, majoring in dis-
sinks to a pool on your plate.
tributive education. A December
wedding is planned.
Every bit of its real Italian ta'am
"Men and Marriage" is almost
like a promotional work. Its factual
material is based on the question-
naires that were issued by the
London Bond Street Marriage Bu-
reau. Heather Jenner, owner of
this bureau, co-authored the book
(published by G. P. Putnam's Sons)
with Muriel Segal.
The text starts with the Private
and Confidential Questionnaire of
the Marriage Bureau. Established
in 1939, more than 15,000 husbands
were introduced to their wives by
this bureau. In the process of the
bureau's experiences, many of the
ideas incorporated here developed.
Thus, the views of men on
marriage, their preferences, the
search by wives for men who
look like actors, the desire for
money, the good and the bad, the
many successes and some fail.
ures, are delineated.
What happens when a man mar-
ries again, how do the women re-
act, what are the attitudes towards
divorce—there are scores of ideas
that emanate from this work.
We learn, for instance: "Those
who are divorced are more resili-
ent. Their experience has been less
tragic, and they are apt to take the
results of a broken home in their
stride, however great the difficul-
We are informed that barriers
usually tumble and the marriage
brokers in the Heather Jenner in-
stance are in some degree opti-
The traditional Jewish shadhan
is discussed and gets a place of
honor. Regrettably, this function
is not properly described. It
could have gotten a more ade-
quate historical definition. It is
Social aspects, education, the
changing attitudes in the present
generation—these are some of the
elements that stem from the au-
thor's 30-year experience.
While it is not revolutionary,
"Men and Marriage" is instructive
and it adds considerably to an ap-
preciation of the marriage broker
business and the process of selec-
tion in choosing life's partners.
Mrs. R. Leibick
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