Page Four DETROIT JEWISH CHRONICLE and Detroit Jewish Chronicle and THE LEGAL CHRONICLE Personal Problems By W. A. GOLDBERG, Ph.D. 's blished Weekly bb Jewish Chronicle Publishing Co.. Inc-. 525 Woodward Ave., Detroit 26, Mich., Tel. CAdillac 1040 SUBSCRIPTION: $3.00 PER YEAR, SINGLE COPIES I0c• FOREIGN, $5.00 PER YEAR tetered as Second•class matter Marsh 3, 1916. it the Postaice at Detroit, Mich., under the Act of March 3, 1879 Editor-in-Chief, LOUIS W. ENFIELD Vol. 48, No. 20 Publisher, CY AARON Managing Editor, NATHAN J. KAUFMAN FRIDAY, MAY 17, 1946 (IYAR 16, Lists of Names Lists of names. Lists of names. Week in and week out, from various organizations in Detroit and from outside cities come the lists of names. To the men in our com- posing room they are a steady headache for the names are foreign, the spelling is odd, setting them in type is difficult. The Chronicle publishes these lists of names. Sometimes the heading is Rela- tives Sought. Sometimes it is Survivors. Each name on the list represents some wretched Jew or Jewess who is seeking a long-lost relative who may extend a helping hand in their dire extremity. The list is endless. Names come in every week. They bear mute testi- mony to a world gone mad. There are no heart-rending pictures. There are no piteous cries. No moving oratory. No indisputable arguments. Only a list of foreign-sounding names, pleading, silently, for a chance to live. Russian Ambassador Coming Detroit will have the opportunity to play host to the Russian ambassador, Ni- kolai Novikov, and his wife who are to come here June 12 for the opening dinner of the Russian Relief drive for the Filatov Children's Hospital of Moscow. This is indeed an opportunity to help cement good will and cordial relations between this country and Russia. This good will is of the utmost importance to future peace, for if the U.S. and the U.S.S.R. are determined that there will be peace on this earth, no nation on the globe would dare defy their wishes. 5706) Detroit 26, Michigan The current mudslinging campaign is between the Labor-Zionifs and the Gen- eral Zionists. Not content with setting forth their own claims for election, both sides are "pointing with pride and view- ing with alarm" in the good old election fashion. Press releases from both sides come pouring in. Sneers, insults, charges and countercharges are in full flood. The Gen- eral Zionists claim the right of rule on the ground that the present organization has failed to accomplish results. The La- bor Zionists charge the ZOA with at- tempting to play the "rich uncle" role. Let no one be fooled, however. When the election is done, both sides will rally around the new leaders and give them full support. A vast job remains to be done. Now is the time for all to rally around the new lead- ership and once and for all get Pales- tine as a Jewish homeland with inter- national guarantees and fundamental safeguards. Let everyone, therfore, buy his shekel. Vote one way or another, but vote. An apathetic world cannot ignore an almost unanimous vote. Let the numbers be strong. Whatever our internal politics, whatever our private squabbles, let us present a united front to the outside world. To England, to the United States, to the whole world, let the voice of Israel thunder forth. "Palestine is ours. We mean to have it." And have it we shall. Sinatra's Organization Nearly a thousand boys and girls crowded the Jewish Community Center last Monday night to inaugurate an inter- faith organization for mutual understand- There are many elements in this ing bearing the Frank Sinatra name. country who would like to see a war Just how many of these bobby-soxers between these two giants because of came to the Center to express their inter- their different political ideologies. est in the organization and how many That such a war would be disastrous were attracted there by the hope that the to the whole world does not come in great "Voice" would make a public ap- the realm of their thinking. They are pearance is impossible to determine. so blinded by hatred, their judgments are so warped by their stupid prej- Nor is it of any importance. The prin- udice, that no cost is too great for cipal thing is that they did come and that them. they were exposed to the earnest discus- of friendly inter-faith relations But for the mass of the people the cost sions which are so important. is too great. Far too great. It is unthink- There are many minorities of various able that we have another war. And the only way to prevent it is to bring about sorts. They keep changing constantly. good relations between the two nations Jews are a minority as opposed to Gen- tiles. In conjunction with people of color, who are now the most powerful. Gratitude is a very potent factor in the Jews join the majority. In political par- relationship of peoples. That is why the ties, they figure in both majorities and great gifts of the people of this country minorities. In wealth, social standing, to the Russians are of such importance. property ownership, business and the The Russian people feel friendly to the like, they join both groups as the case American people. They recognize them as may be. their benefactors. This feeling must be It is monstrous for Jews, when they are encouraged in every way possible. in majority positions, to browbeat or sneer Watch for the campaign of the Rus- at helpless minorities. Jews must always sian Relief for the Filatov Children's Hos- be in the vanguard of the fight for toler- pital of Moscow which starts on June 12 ance and democracy on whatever front with the address of the Russian ambassa- that fight is being fought. dor to the United States. A donation there For this reason, the meeting of this puts you in the position of being an am- inter-faith group at the Center takes on bassador of good will on the scale with much importance. Jews need the help of the greatest of our formal diplomats. This kind of good will pays off. It may mean such groups to settle their own problems that your son, when he grows up, will not and to win their own battles. They must join these groups, lend them whatever aid march off to senseless slaughter. and assistance is within their power. And this country may well be grateful It's Still an Election for such people as Frank Sinatra. He ' The campaign for the sale of shekolim lends the use of his name to all such in this country is in full swing. Most peo- movements 'for the spread of tolerance inter-faith amity. Most important of ple have their minds set on buying one in and all, his influence is greatest among the order to demonstrate to the powers that impressionable youth of the land where be their interest and enthusiasm regard- such influence is needed the most. ing Palestine and its use as a homeland It is also fortunate that this city has for refugees. such places as the Jewish Center where What most people do not seem to the youth of the city may be served so realize is that this is also an election. efficiently. In times to come, more and As such it folows the tradition of more of our fund raising campaigns will elections in this country and abroad be built around Center needs and the wherein each side takes to itself the needs of our youth. Then and then only privilege and liberty of abusing the will our problems in juvenile delinquency other side to its heart's content. dwindle. - I.rtday, May 17, Kg, The Legal Chrome:. Director, Counselling Service Copyrighted, 1946. by W. A. Goldberg, All rights reserved Your questions in personal problems Ph.D. will be answered possible or in these columns. Send your question and a stamped, self addressed envel- ope to Dr. W. A. Goldberg, 1314 Eaton Tower, De- troit 26, Mich. or to the Detroit Jewish Chron. by mail as far as icle, 525 Woodward Avenue. Detroit 26, Mich. PART I A Home or Just a Place to Sleep "Never did I have a place to play at home. I met my friends 011 the corner where we played the usual games. At one time I brought my girl friends home after school. My mother usually found some nasty remark to make before all of us. We were all so flabbergasted that they refused to visit me. I would rush in af- ter school, drop my books and then go outside to meet and play with the girls from the neighborhood. . . During this time thy folks were (metalling and they filially were divorced. .. I still get angry when I think of how my mother treated us, even live years after the This is the h story a twenty-year-old stenographer who now keep house for her father. For her age she shows good sense and is rather capable. The picture she gives of her home is not unusual today. In a number of cases of misbehaving children whose parents come for guidance, I must make a mental evaluation of the kind of home they have, not the physical surroundings but the emotional atmosphere cre- ated by parents and children. The sermon at my wedding listed the differences between a house and a home. A house is a place where people eat, sleep and change their clothes. It may be well furnished and in an exclusive neighbor. hood. It may have all the creature comforts and all the gadgets. But it never becomes a home until there is love, understanding, an atmo. sphere of refuge. It never becomes a home until it is the place pm- ferred above all others by all members of the family. A man comes home at night to his family. His day at the office can't be beat. He put through a big deal or the boss thought he did an extra-fine job. Or, as happens, things went wrong all day long .. no sales, no orders, employees didn't show up or were sassy. But a man comes home knowing, in case he has a home, that he can share both the joys and disappointments of the working day with his family, hit wife, his children. He has a home because they are all part of it. There is serenity; there are people who love him. A child returns from school. His examination marks were good. He is full of joy and vigor. Or, he was bawled out for inattention. Still, his parents are there and he has a source 0? refuge, of security. He can go into the basement, the attic, into his own room or a corner of any room in the house and busy himself with his hobbies or his books. Suppose that he comes home and is criticized for his omissions or commissions. Suppose there is bickering between the parents. Suppose the parents have an unusually high social or vocational ambition to: just an ordinary child, the child who, like most people, is just "aver• age." Suppose the parents wish to ram down the child's throat all the culture, elocution, dramatics, music, or dancing which the parents missed as children. Suppose they do not regard sunshine, outdoor air and athletics as necessary to a child's growth. That places the child behind the "eight-ball." That child will net feel, cannot feel that he has more than just a place to eat and sleep. That child lacks a home, whatever its cost and neighborhood. It makes little difference if the parents were raised without all these so-called "modern ideas," because the parents lived in a totally different world. A Child Needs .. . Suppose parents believe that a house should have no noise, laugh- ter, pounding of hammers, building of toys, airplanes. Suppose they are so meticulously clean that a child may not drop a piece of tissue paper on the floor, bring in mud on his shoes, or hang his walls wit:: the usual collection of children's junk. Do you think that I am exaggerating? Or can you readily name individuals living near you who fit into these characterizations? Or do you yourself lean toward such housekeeping ideas and standard; for a home? If a child spends most of his free time away from his own home, would you suspect that all is not well? The child will not or cannot reveal his feelings. He may not know, consciously. But his friends' homes may be more pleasant. His friends' parents may encourage the children to use the home to its fullest extent. His friends' parents may give your child the warmth and welcome he needs. And inwardly, often unconsciously, your child is making comparisons, to the detriment of his own home. Hebrew, English and Jewish books available at the Zion Book 9008 12th Street, near Clairmount. 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