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MAN 4)1 THE WULF

The 'Voice of the
Man in the Street

Personal Problems

LIGHT, GENIAL, EARNEST Gus D. Newman is saluted by the
Chronicle for his earnest work in communal affairs and is ac-
Time: Sunday afternoon.
corded honor as the Man of the Week.
Place: Twelfth Street.
Newman was born in Detroit. He attended the old Bishop School
Question: Do you think that
up to the sixth grade and then went to work as a parcel boy at the
shop of Henry the Hatter. He remained in this work all his life. First Jews in Detroit are doing all they
he learned the complete business of making hats, finishing and renovat• can to help the Allied Jewish
ing them. Then he became a buyer and finally a member of the firm, Campaign?
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'• his own Hebrew education was along slightly different lines than are
taught now.
Mrs. J. Katler, 1659 Lee ('lace.

Two ('heders

"There were only two 'cheders' in Detroit when I was a boy."
he said. "One was a Hebrew school taught by a man named Gold-
man on Elizabeth near Hastings. The other, the one I attended,
was taught by a man known
as the 'lied Melamed' because
of his flaming red beard. This
'cheder' was in a little cottage
in the yard of the old Beth
Jacob Synagogue on Montcalm
and Ilastings.
"It was heated by an old
Jumbo stove in the winter.
There were forty of us sitting
at long tables in the room. The
benches consisted of long
planks laid across chairs.
There we learned Bible and a
little Commentary. The disci-
pline was very severe and the
teacher took great pride in the
success of some of his schol-
ars.
"I remember the panic of 1907
very well," he reminisced further.
"It was very severe indeed. Detroit
was then a small town and there
were no organized charities. When
people were hit, they were nitvery
hard as they had no place to
turn. Of course, prices and wages
oy Erie Dolmai were very different then. For a
GUS D. NEWMAN
nice five room cottage, ten dollar:;
a month was a very fair rental. Top salesmen got fifteen dollars a
week."

No, I feel that Jews of Detroit
are not doing enough for the Al-
lied Jewish Campaign. More peo-
ple ought to he
active and then
a good deal
more money
could he raised.
I am going lo
a tea on May
1. We need
more affairs
like that where
people could
raise large and
small sums of
money. Many
people should have affairs like
this in their homes.
My husband is a veteran and
my brother has just returned from
overseas. From their stories I
know what the need really is. Tha
Jews ought to have the story
more widely spread so that th ,y
can understand it. Then perhaps
they would not spend so much on
gambling and amusements but
would put their whole hearts and
souls into this campaign which
is so necessary for the survival of
Judaism.

Hannah Schloss Building

When Newman was twelve years old, the Hannah Schloss Build.
ing was put up. This was the center of all Jewish activities includin'
all Jewish charities. The superintendent of the building was Blanche
Hart. In this building were begun the first night school classes to'
Jewish immigrants. Next sewing classes were installed and then week-
ly dances were started.
"All of us boys in the Bishop School were notified by the prin-
cipal that manual training courses would be given in the Schloss
Building," continued Newman. "They had benches and tools in the
basement. Out of this class there developed the old Tri-Square
Club of which many of Detroit's leaders were members. Abe Srere
was there and Nate Shapero, Aubrey Gittleman, Nate Goldstick
and his brother Healy, Dr. Sam Eder, Isadore Levin, Harry Win-
ston, Maurice Goldman, Dan Lewis, Mike Victor and a great many
others.

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"The club was sponsored by Fred Butzel and was the first of many
clubs organized there. I played on the baseball and basketball teams.
Later, I coached some of the teams and for a while, I refereed pro-
fessional basketball games.
"I first entered communal life as a worker in the Detroit Service
Grotto. In the '20's, all the United Jewish charities were organized as
the Jewish Welfare Federation. The first step of the Detroit Service
Group was to enlist workers for fund raising and that was where
fitted in. The campaigns were organized in divisions by letters. I
worked on division 'E.' Nate Shapero, the present chairman of th
Allied Jewish Campaign, was the chairman of my division. He we;
succeeded by Samuel Rubiner. Then for several years, George Stutz
and I were co-chairmen."
Later, Newman was president of the Service Group for four years
under the chairmanship of Si Shetzer. In this campaign, Irving Blum-
berg is the president and the chairman is Maurice Enggass.
He is a member of Pisgah Lodge of Bnai Brith. Sonic fifty-seven
years ago, his parents were married at the Shaarey Zedek Synagogue
on Congress and St. Antoine and Newman has been a lifelong mem-
ber of Shaarey Zedek.
For six years, Newman served on the Board of the Jewish Corn.
munity Center. As chairman of the athletic board there, he helped
supervise the buying of equipment and also in laying out the hand-
ball courts.
He also served on the board of the Hebrew Free Loan Association
and on the hoard of the Jewish Community Council. For eleven yea's
he has been on the board of the Jewish Home for the Aged. In tit ..
present Allied Jewish Campaign he is a counsellor of a division. He i.-
a chairman of the executive committee on the Service Group.

Campaign Will Succeed
"1 feel that this campaign will be a success and will be even
oversubscribed," he said earnestly. "The response in the field is
magnificent. The suns to be raised is more than double the sum
ever asked before and yet less effort semis to be necessary to get
people to respond. We credit this not only to the fart that people
have more money than ever before but also to the fact that they
are more community conscious. From now on, I feel sure that all
Jews will have a more generous and liberal attitude."
A Zionist all his life and a onetime member of the Zionist Board
he hailed the reported finding of the Inquiry Commission as "a gond
decision but not good enough. We have an old debt arising out of the
Balfour Declaration. We are entitled to payment of it all."
A bachelor, Newman lives with his sister. His hobby is horseback
riding and he goes to a gymnasium regularly twice a week. He speaks
fluently and thoughtfully.
"I liked debating when I was a boy," he said. "I became a member
of the Philomathic - Debating Club because I enjoyed speaking. I re-
member the first debate I was on had the subject of 'Women's Suf-
frage.' This was years before it was accepted here and I could get no
material in the library. I was told to write to a Mrs. Pankhurst in
England and it took a long time to get any reply. Meantime I was
fined twenty-fly( cents for being delinquent in my preparation. It was
all very discouraging.
"The greatest need of Jews in this country." he ended, 9s to
organize as communities the way the 1Velfare Federation and the
Community Council are organized in Detroit. I like particularly the
for work of the Council on public relations and internal discipline.
There is greater need than ever for this type of work since sub-
versive interests are beginning to rear their ugly heads again. We
need this type of work and will continue to need it until these con-
ditions clear up. I hope that will he in the near future."
The reorganizing of the Detroit Service Group. Newman feels, will
offer a fine service to the community since it will link people more
closely throughout the year to community agencies.

Boris Goldner, 2283 Clairmount.

support the campaign
myself and I
feel that people
should give as
much as they
can to it. None
of my friends
are actually
working on it.
This campaign
has to be a suc-
cess because
the need is so
much greater
than ever
before. Jews who are in-this coun-
try should give generously if for
no other reason than that they
are safe and happy here.

• Yes, I

It --
Abraham Ludwig, 1998 Glad-
stone.

No, I don't think people are do-
ing all they can for this cam-
paign. The average Jew gives
charity as a matter of course out
this campaign
is not being
given enough
publicity. I have
talked to many
people about
this campaign
and ninety-five
percent of them
think this is
the first one of
its kind.
T h e leaders
of this drive
should have an all-out campaign
with all kinds of publicity includ-
ing stories in the American press
as well as the Jewish papers. This
is not a campaign for Jews alone.
People understand the great
need but they are not being reach-
ed the way it is necessary they
should. Two million dollars is not
too great a quota for this city. I
feel sure we will reach that and
pass it if the proper effort is
made. Everyone knows that when
it comes to charity, the Jew nev-
er holds back.

Sarah Penman, owner of Zion
Book Store, 9008 Twelfth St.

If people would contribute what
they are sup-
posed to. tha
Allied Jewish
Campaign
would be s u c -
cessful beyond
a n y question.
Everyone
ought to give
ten percent '.f
his income be-
cause the need
is so great. I
give ten percent
of mine and I don't feel that it Is
too much of a strain.

By W. A. GOLDBERG, Ph.D.

Director, Counselling Service

Copyrighted, 1946, by W. A. Goldberg, Ph.D.
All rights reserved

Your questions in personal problems will be answered
by mail as far as possible or in these columns. Send
your question and a stamped, self-addressed envel-
ope to Dr. W. A. Goldberg, 1314 Eaton Tower, De.
trait 26, Mich. or to the Detroit Jewish Chron-
icle, 525 Woodward Avenue Detroit 26. Mich.

PART II

Falling for the Other Man's Wife

This is the second in a series on "Guideposts to a Happy Mar-
riage," as requested by a bee of readers. The complete series,
with additions, will he available in booklet form.

Two weeks ago, we gave an outline of a case of a successful busi-
ness man involved with another woman. He neglected his wife. She
took up with a man in a night club who whispered delightful words
to her. Apparently this marriage was on the rocks.
No marriage, we believe, is so involved that it is considered hope-
less. Any marriage , may be re-directed if the partners (a) recognize
the misdirection of the marriage, lb) strongly wish to take correc-
tive measures and (c) seek, often, expert assistance.
Nowhere in our thinking is there room for apportioning of blame.
The specific items in the difficulty are interesting but of little conse-
quence. They are symptoms and symptoms arc not successfully treat-
ed -only basic reasons. Marriage embraces two people each of whom
acts upon the other and is reacted upon. We have heard hundreds of
partners admit they were wrong. Yet, the following week, the same
difficulty re-occurred. Neither apparently understood the basis of the
difficulty and neither took steps to remedy the difficulty. The mind is
a sponge soaking up impressions and feelings; it is not a blackboard
from which a damp cloth erases all marks.
In the remedy, one or both partners must be seriously dissatisfied
with the direction of the marriage. Often the husband may make the
first step. But at least one partner must be so violently dissatisfied
with the mess of the marriage as to seek help and follow directions.
Secondly, both partners need to relieve their feelings about their
past acts. When husband and wife are seen together, as in many pub-
lic attempts at reconciliation, the time is wasted and the job becomes
impossible. Each person, in front of the other, must maintain his own
self-respect, to build himself or herself in his own eyes and at the
expense of the other.
When each partner is permitted to relieve his feelings without
being judged, without the need for "face-saving," the first step is
taken toward a remedy. This emotional cathartic is good for the pres-
ent and for the future. It clears feelings of guilt . . . it brings them
to the surface . It is confession of the highest order.
Each partner is now ready for constructive analysis. Each partner
is helped to understand himself and his actions. This is skilled serv-
ice and under no circumstances to be undertaken by a well-meaning
person without training. Often, the difficulty is so deep-seated that
other specialists must be called in for help.
The next step us a review of the initial goals of this marriage, as
tempered by the present situation. The counsellor helps each person
compare his summary with that of the partner. Often they are not
far apart.
Often we find that the husband has progressed and the wife re-
mained static, especially if they came from humble surroundings.
Clothes and personal appearance, small items, can play an important
role in marital difficulties. The wife who has neglected her appearance
can easily secure competent advice as to make-up, dress, body-slim-
ming, language, card-playing. All these can be done expensively or
modestly. All these will often help make a man again proud of his
wife. A man wants his wife with him, to do him credit. In this she
must be a participant, not a wet blanket.

The Menopause—Male and Female

Many men forget, or do not realize, that their wives will be pass-
ing through the menopause. The wife may be fearful of this period,
not from fact but from rumor. Your family physician can he of con-
siderable help in clearing these misconceptions and in treating them.
Many women do not know that men, too, fear approaching old
age. They fear the possibility of reduced physical vigor and reduce
sex life. This too is based upon ignorance. Some men need to prove to
themselves that they are potent and so chase younger women. Often
the chase becomes a merry-go-round since the demonstration must he
continuous, to be effective. Fortunately, some men soon realize their
position and settle down. Literature is available on the subject stating
recognized views and giving suggestions.
Familiarity breeds contempt. Husband and wife, having lived to-
aether for years, take each other for granted. They forget that mar-
iage, as a business, requires constant work. Each member still wants
to be treated as a human being, to be flattered, to be loved, to be
catered to.
Therefore we suggest to each partner: Make your husband or wife
feel important, at least several times a week or more often. Bake a
special cake, wear a different tic, go to the show, bring flowers or
candy home.
When two people have a deep feeling for each other, these bits of
flattery may not appear necessary. But every human being, male or
female, likes to hear compliments, likes to feel important, and, best.
of all, likes to feel that way often.

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bulletin on "An Inventory of Your Marriage," either to the address
above or in care of this newspaper.

Dr. Goldberg is available to clubs and groups of parents for dk-
cussions on personal problems. He may be addressed at his office or in
care of this newspaper.

1_9 FPI- To lEn. BON

Gentlemen:
I cannot renew my subscription to the Detroit Jewish Chronicle
inasmuch as you continue to support Franklin D. Roosevelt after all
the evidence has proved him equally gunny with the British and the
German "Master Race" for the torture and extermination of 6.000,000
Jews. He, F.D.R.. violated the Palestine Mandate, the Anglo-American
Treaty on Palestine of 1924, etc.
I sent you a letter for publication in your paper and you did not
even bother to print it.

Give to the U.J.A.

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from Washington, D. C., to Wright
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(Ed. Note: Sec our editorial on "A Great American." We would like
to hear from other readers on this subject.)

