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DETROIT JEWISH CHRONICLE and The Legal Chronicle

Detroit Jewish Chronicle

F r ill ay, March 22, 1946

Personal Problems

' and THE LEGAL CHRONICLE

Published Weekly by Jewish Chronicle Publishing Co., Inc., 525 Woodward Ave., Detroit 26, Mich., Tel. CAdillac 1040

By W. A. GOLDBERG, Ph.D.
Director, Counselling Service

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Copyrighted ► ' 1946, by W. A. Goldberg, Ph.D.

entered as Second-class matter March 3, 1916, at the Post cffice at Detroit, Mich., under the Act of March 3, 187-

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Editor-in-Chief, LOUIS W. ENFIELD

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Vol. 4S No. 12

Publisher, CY AARON

Managing Editor, NATHAN J. KAUFMAN

FRIDAY, MARCH 22, 1946 (ADAR II, 15, 5706)

What of the Children?

This week, a city-wide rally will he ad-
dressed by Rabbi Lookstein in the inter-
ests of the Allied Jewish Campaign. The
rabbi will disclose his findings while trav-
eling in Europe and will make his appeal
on the basis of the terrible things he has
seen.
Of all the messages Rabbi Lookstein
has sent back while on his trip, perhaps
the worst of all had to do with the refusal,
of Jewish children to accept inoculations
against disease. These children remember-
ed only too vividly the terror that accom-
panied the inoculations by the Nazis of
benzine directly into the bloodstream of
their victims, an inoculation that resulted
in a hideous death.
When they saw the, approaching nee-
dle, these children weni,into convulsions
of terror even though it was carefully ex-
plained that this would prevent them from
catching death-dealing diseases. They
could not lay aside their fearful memories
at will.
It is to save Alen children that a
large part of the funds are being rais-
ed by the Allied Jewish Campaign.
These children must not, cannot, be
lost from the Jewish fold. And they
will not. The Campaign is going
ahead in full swing. Meetings are be-
ing held daily. The service groups are
well organized. This is the only cam-
. paign of its kind this year.
Every Jew in Detroit will be approach-
ed sooner or later to make his contribu-
tion. When you make yours, keep in mind
the little children of a generation that
was cursed. That this generation may yet
be recovered and may be a part of a to-
morrow that has brightness and sunlight,
make your gift as large as is humanly
possible.

Churchill Threatens

This telegram was sent by Winston
Churchill to Judge Floyd I. Sperry, Chair-
man of th'e-'Missouri State Committee for
Russian Relief a few days after the Brit-
isher had delivered his now famous
speech at Fulton, Missouri.
"I have just learned that you are hold-
ing two important meetings—one in Kan-
sas City and the other in St. Louis — to
appeal to the people of your state for
medical supplies for the gallant soldiers
and civilians of the USSR who have suf-
fered so greatly in the common cause.
Please assure the people of Missouri that
I and my wife, whose Red Cross Russian
Fund in Britain has reached $30,000,000,
hope that your campaign will meet the
highest success. — Signed Winston Chur-
chill."

Detroit 26, Michigan

and seems by his presence to endorse 012
anti-Russian statements, the hope for fu-
ture peace in the world seems very dark
indeed.

There can be no light in this world
until the two great powers, the Unit-
ed States and Russia, determine that
war shall no more blight this earth.
To reach this stage, it would be far
wiser if our government ordered peo-
ple like Churchill to do their fulmin-
ating at hctme.

Jews in the Arab Lands

The appearance of representatives of
the Sephardic Jews before the Anglo-
American Committee, who demanded that
the Jews in the neighboring Arab lands
be permitted to enter Palestine, "aroused
perturbation" among members of the
committee. So says a reports in the news-
papers.

The committee had thought that it
would have only to deal with the
Jews in Europe, but the fact of the
matter is — the situation of the Jews
in the Arab lands is in many instances
as bad as is the situation in Europe.
The Arabs, to be sure, have constant-
ly made pretensions before,the com-
mittee that they never persecute the
Jews. The fact of the matter is that
the situation of the Jews in the Arab
lands is pretty deplorable.

Children Should Be Told, Too,
of Birth and Death

PART II — DEATH

"How," asks a war widow, just notified by the War Depart-
ment, "can I break the news of my husband's death to my cbil-
drin? They are only babies. They couldn't possibly understand
that their father is gone forever. . . Wouldn't it be better to tell
them that he is away and wait until they are older before giving
them the cruel facts? I would like to shield them as much as pos-
sible from all grie:4'
MRS. B.C.
As a parent, you are only the custodian of your children. Your
obligations remain to bring them up to face life as it is, not to shield
them from its harshness and sorrow. You cannot keep them from
knowing. You merely make it more difficult for them to live as real
people.

How long could you carry on a fiction? How long is a father away
from home usually, even in a war situation? You merely postpone the
day of revelation. In addition, you run the risk of having your chil-
dren resent your apparent good intentions.
Have you seen children raised in an orphanage?? These children
have all their material wants met when they need them. They get
clothes, dental care, medical care, vacations, special education. They
get these things whether times are good or bad. They live in a social
vacuum. They have no idea that at some time during their lives they
will have to share with others, that their wants will not be filled im-
mediately they experience the desire. In every norm al family, whatever
the financial position, there must be a give-and-take between the
members. Children soon learn that they are only parts of a whole
structure .. the family.

You are raising children to take their place in a real world. In this
world they will find sorrow, joy, unpleasantness and happiness, peri-
ods of work and of _elaxation. You will raise only lop-sided children
if you present only the pleasant side of life.
To be specific. Your husband died in the service of his country,
defending it against an aggressor. What appeal do you think this will
have to your children, small as they are? What goggle-eyed expres-
sions children take on when you talk about soldiers! Your husband
was a soldier, and a brave man. In his bravery, he gave his all to de-
fend his country! It does not require much imagination by you to im-
part these facts. It merely requires that you tell a simple story.
You will glorify your husband in the minds of the children. If
anything, this talc about your husband will bring you and the chil-
dren closer together.
By all means stay away from the fairy tale that their father is
asleep or that he has gone away. Life demands that children know the
finality of death, as young as they are.

The fact that in Iraq, for instance,
there was organized an anti-Zionist so-
ciety among Jews might seem to testify
that all is well with the Jews of Iraq, but
a little investigation will prove that it tes-
tifies to the very opposite condition. The
Your Plans
Jews in one way or another were forced
told this story is only part of the picture. You have an-
to join the anti-Zionist society. As the other Having
job. In that, you will plan and build your family's life from this
Jewish Encyclopedia says, the Jews of time on. You will build a complete life. You will not lose yourself in
Iraq, always ill at ease in their country, reveries about your husband and his goodness. Life does not stay put.
have taken advantage of every opportun- Life does not stop but it goes on day by day and year by year.
presume that you are a young woman. What about your life?
ity to emigrate. And this same statement The I lives
of your children? Do you and the children intend to lean
is true of most Arab lands, although the -w,solely upon each other? Will you get your thrills second-handed, skim-
Jews in these countries have been living ming them out of your chidren's joys? Widows generally lean upon
in those lands, for the most part -, for the their young sons as a substitute for a husband when the sons need a
father and you a husband. I think of the young brides who went West
past 2,000 years.

Palestine has already had an infiltra-
tion of Jews from neighboring Arab lands.
and there is no reason why it should not
receive more. If the Arab lands do not
appreciate them, Jewish Palestine will
and does.

Good Friday and Anti-Semitism

Froin Cincinnati comes a comforting
report from the Superintendent of Paro-
chial Schools of the Archdiocese of Cin-
cinnati about anti-Semitic feelings brought
about by teaching in Catholic schools con-
This telegram, coming right after a cerning the responsibility of Jews in con-
speech in which the British statesman nection with the death of Jesus.
practically called for a war against Rus-
The superintendent drew up a list of
sia, is clear evidence of the kind of double questions to be put to the eighth grade
talk Churchill is capable of. Only a die- students of thirty-eight schools, both rur-
hard Tory, thinking in terms of the world al and suburban, throughout the diocese.
of yesterday instead of the world of to- One of the questions asked, "Should Jews
morrow, could envision another war, let of today be blamed for what Jews in that
alone actually urge or threaten one.
day did?" Teachers- were asked "not to
call specific attention to this question."
Mr. Churchill has long outlived his
usefulness. He cannot even plead sen-
Out of 877 children who answered the
ility for he is still as foxy as ever, still
question, only 43 replied affirmatively.
as able to talk out of both sides of his
Fifteen schools replied that not one soli-
mouth as ever before. It would be far _ tary child had said "Yes" to this ques-
better if this orator would take the
tion.
very sensible advice of Orson Welles
In a world where anti-Semitism is
who pleaded with Churchill to "keep
supposed to be on the increase, such
his mouth shut."
a report is particularly gratifying. It
The Russians are not yet ready to for-
contains within itself the seeds of.the
get that it was Winston Churchill, back
kind of living where a man is judged
in 1917, who ordered the Allied forces
on his own individual worth rather
to invade Russia without any quarrel or
than on account of his race or reli-
without declaring war, merely to smash
gion, or for that matter, his color.
the new-born Bolshevik government. When
The information contained in this re-
Churchill rises to speak, the Russians are
ready to listen, suspiciously and with port should be publicized among all Ca-
tholic schools. It is the kind of example
great care.
that should be followed, that should be
When, to top it all, the president of the encouraged among the youth of our land
United States sits on the same platform from one end of the country to the other.

4.

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with their pioneer husbands, sharing their rugged inconveniences, wo-
men who, when the occasion required it, met dangers and disaster ant!,
often alone, built from that point on.

The normal development of your life requires a husband for you
and a father for your children. And when you reach the point of re-
marriage, please don't wait until you areemarried to tell the children
your actions. Get them to share in the planning, as far as their minds
permit. Introduce into their lives your new plans so that they won't
be shocked by any sudden moves. You will save yourself and them
untold disturbances.

(NOTE: In another column, we discuss the effect on children of
the lingering death of a parent, the sudden remarriage of the survivor
and the anxieties of a step-parent.)

The Thinker