friday, January 25, 1946

DETROIT JEWISH CHRONICLE ss4 The L.9.1 Civos.e.

Personal Problems

By W. A. GOLDBERG, PhD,
Director, Counselling Service

Copyliql1U74, 046, hr W, A, (70;drmrg, Ph.D.

All rights reserved

Your guestons in personal problems will be answered
by mail as far as possible or in these r.oluirirs Send
your genstion and a stamped, self addressed envel.
cps to Dr, W. A, Goldberg, 1114 Eaton Tower, De.
bait 26, Mich, or to the [IOWA, Ja with Caron-
525 Woodward A ra nu ,. Detroit 26, Mich,

A Sharp Break Is Always The Best Solution

so They Tell Me---

By LOUIS W. ENFIELD

In it little town In Russia, there
was u preacher who used to go
from synagogue to synagogue to
deliver sermons. lie was an old
bearded Jew and MS messages
came from the heart. His audi-
ences all realized this and suffered
through his long, prosy sermona
without protest. It was customary
to nit for about an hour and
listen. Then the audience would
get up and leave one by one and
then the hall would be empty.
The old preacher saw this time
after time and It made him sadt.
Not only could he charge less
money for his 'services, but the
audiences were deprived of lb.r
messages which he believed were
vital to their well being. Accord-
ingly, he used to pick one man
in hits audience and direct the
whole menage to that one.

MAN CIF 11-11E

Poo t aus

writir

To Irving 1. Katz, executive securtary of Trerr.Ve I:srfto
It..'r
(.111t1/NIC1,E a•tords ttw honor of choosing tarn 44 ri,s - 140 of trier
Week. I:orn in Imugavpits, in Littvia, Katz go4 hos *so .."-sr s-44..41;ofo
Ir. this country
Vtoelstsixot
He Is tt graduate of the Speraerian I:lorries* f!ottegs,
with it degree of gai beim of 1:11.1,111k14 Administration a,4 rwt.avo
graduate of Western Itr - serve Cniversity whkre was awarded
degree of flai Mira of Arts

lit•co ► ties Earrullte Ifirrolor
While going to college. he b•emoe executive dirwitor and itiros"dir
14 education of Morrison Temple in (levelvo4 41.4i4k4 //to st oar-ear
as an attorrwy, and with this in mind, be returned to Western Ifesersa
University and entered the law se -howl where for attended for 14, 4
years,
At this tone, romance enUied Into bis life, If* out * girl (win
tliicago and made two decisions, One was to ;rusk* tier his wife, 'Ps"
other was that his career was
going to be In the (Mid of congre-
gational work. In this he was at
least partly guided by bin Inten-
sive Jewish education, fie speaks,
reads and writes Hebrew fluently
and 11101 a l'011Iplete background
In ltabbinic lore,
Katz thereupon left the law
school to return no more, In 1934,
he accepted another position as
executive' secretary, tills time at
Anshe Emeth Temple In Youngs-
town, Ohio where he remained
until 1939 when he was called to
Detroit to become executive secre-
tary of the Temple Beth El In
Det roit.
Ilk marriage has been bloused
with two children, Nina, aged ten
and Myrna, aged seven.
Avilv is In Avukall
While at the university, Katz
specialized largely In literary ac-
tivities. There wan II line chapter
of Avukall there and he wait very
active In this organizallon, Later,
IRVING J, KA'l'Z
he became the vice-president of the graduate chapter and finally be
became national publicity director for Aviikali.
Continuing his activity after graduation, Katz was chairman of
the first enthral conference Of the (11'1,4111nd •11rWINII Youth league,
comprised of sixty youth groups, 1fe was also the vice-chaIrman of
the 1100111 service and teacher's division of the Jewish Welfare p'u'rl
there, When he arrived in Youngstown, he wits very active In organi-
zational work, holding offices In the Jewish p•ederallon, the Jewish
Center and other similar organizations,

"I have hero gulag with is young man for *is years. VI'e hope
to get married, Each year we seem less and 10.004 *We to come to
It decision. 1I'e enjoy each other's company very much. He has
several very had tinfoils but doesn't think enough of o ur to give
them up, 1 won't marry him unless be does. I don't want to hurt
him by breaking off. Would he change after we get married?"—T.V.
of course he won't change, You want it miracle to happen. You
In a synagogue In Wllna, he
seem to witnt the pleasure of each other's company, Both of you seem
undecided whether you want each other for the rest of your INCA. got a response for once. In the
if you love this man as he In, marry him, If you don't love him lid middle of his harrangue, an old
he Is, why pretend? Why prolong the ity,ony of Indecision? You will Jew sitting In it corner listened
1 he most unhappy trying to mold a Man to your 'specifications, The half way through the sermon and
longer you wait the harder it will be to make is change, either In then beiran to weep, Person after
yourself or in him. And the longer you wait, the lens likelihood that person left the synagogue during
the sermon but this one old man
you will marry him or anyone else,
continued to listen and continued
You must make it (114 . 1/110n on these "bail habits," If they are really to weep. The preacher called on
Intolerable to you, there in no point to the carriage, Your friend's or his best tear jerkers and the re-
strangers can help you get an outside viewpoint about (limn, If they
sult exceeded his wildest hopes,
are no strongly objectionable to you that life with Litton will be un-
The old Jew did not cease hits
beatable, you %OH not be able to forget them, Maybe they are of little
weeping for it moment,
Importance, Perhaps you lire using them as an excuse not to get
At long last, the sermon was
married,
done, The few survivors In the
Your litince's parents spent twenty years and more to change him audience tiled out but the old
front it human animal to it human being, Yours did the Name, 13y age Jew still sat In his corner and
twenty or twenty-live, your habits ure well determined, Very few wept, The preacher walked
over
women succeed in making it man over although many try, But very to him,
few women will admit that it cannot be done,
"Good sir," he (wean, I'm gird
Can you judge the possibilitiets by the goal's you have set for your to see you were so touched by my
marriage? Is It your idea that it man should conform to his wife's sermon, But the sermon Is over,
desires? M0111. Men 111(1' to believe they run the home and family, There Is no need to weep any
whether they :whinny do or not, They do not like women to be more,"
dontlnitting. They resent their wives' attempt to lie boss,
The old Jew continued his sobs,
"I had n goat," he sold, "And the
Face the Issue
goat wits the mainstay of my life,
(t ii Community Council
It seems to nu. that If you cannot remit IL derision In Nix yeas, We got milk from t ha t goat and
Here In Detroit, he Is It delegate to the Jewish l'rentrinnity Connell
you have one of two chokes, It may be helpful to have n personality cheese, 'I'he children all loved her,
and it member of their synagogue committee, Be in On1Inliglln Ithl/11t
Inventory of both yourself and your fiance. It would be helpful to And then she died."
the council and feels that their future is very bright,
your marriage plans with a number of persons skilled In
Ife sobbed again,
"I think the Council has tremendous potentlelities, These will he
personality and marriage problem, You may wish to discuss It with
"But what," rejoined the preitelt• more, fully rettIlzed when trill/p.(1 professional workers
who go to
a total stranger,
er sternly, "hits this to do with school with the express purpose of malting Council work their vamp
After such a discussion or without it, you will either break your my sermon?"
lion become available for the specialized fields that must be ileyeloped
engagement or get !marled. Your problem Is to matte a decision and
"Nothing," said the old Jew, In Council work,"
to stick to It, You fear that the, decision will not be easy or that it "But your heard wagged ell
ICatz Is the president of the National Association of Temple Were•
114 impossible, Everything depends on your judgment of whether these through the sermon and It re-
tortes and it member of the Commission un Hynagogue ActlYithas of
habits are Important or minor, If these are major faults, why tie minded me of my goat and it re- th e uni o n of
American Itebrew Cong regal Ions, He, Is a regular non•
yourself to it life with them? Why take on a marriage with known minded me of all my miseries."
tributor to the monthly mitgazin•, "Liberal Judelion" Mimi Ito writes
you,
No
ono
before
handicaps? If they are minor, your answer Is abet
And he lifted up his voice and articles on synagogue itdministrill ion, fie has already published
n
can make the decision for you,
wept 'wain,
mental fur •xeentive secrelarlen wblrh Is In urn nil over I.hu country,
*
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*
Whatever you do, don't prolong the misery for both of you. Ex-
Ife is planning to publish :mother manual on problems deallrig with
amine the case, pretending it belongs to someone else, (let help If
The lady drove up to it parking the executive phase of congregational work,
neeessitry. Then omit' your decision end stilt to it, There is more to lot and started to hand over her
Wins Award of Merit
living than vicarious thrills, Both of you are better off either single ear to the lot operator. Suddenly
Nod. year, he won an award of merit from the 11111,11 of Amoi ru n
or married Bain you are engaged but nut married.
beside the lot, it car drove away
ilebrew Congregations fur his itetivity In lima fund mining 1111111/111)(11,
and left it space, The holy drove
As' hobby, Katz hits made un extensive minty of Sin, history
of
out of the lot and parked in the
Jews in Miehlinin, especlully of the history of TeMplo I3ul.h 141 In
space right next to it, The opera- De troit, The material on the 'Tenpin will
hut published In Ricci when
tor muttered tinder his breatit
the congregation mines Its hundredth birthday,
►
and went about his business,
Ile Is also starting it series of :alleles In the VIMONICLE on
Two hours litter, the lady re- this subject, the first of which it:moats today. Ho has
ono of tbu Nonni.
turned and started to drive nit of collections in existence of early Jewish history In
Iho slam' , Mho found herself on rare intinuoseripts, books and pictures,
It slope and began to have
No P;sp•rlenee with
Him would back the car and
"I never hull any persomil experieneo with anii.moinitigno
turn the wheel, llowever, being a Katz, "but I realize that It exists and Is growing In this country,
Ily IltVIN11 111AVETI'
lady 'driver, OW did not think of
lowever, 1 11111 a great believer In donovrimy and I lin ye very
Jewish Chrentele Foreign enrresnundent
putting her foot on the bruise optimistic hope's for the future of the Jewish community
In Ainioriwi,
it'oprIght IIIIII, All Nights Iteserveill
while shit turned her wheel the I feel that We Will bit ubin 10
ham care of any anti-tlioffille isellVitY In
otlwr
way.
this
country,
If the Jews In the Untleil t4littels will make use of lip&
Mg it seat till the EATS plane for
Artiele II of Herpes
heritage, they do not need to fear,
140 lee rnr would roll down
some oilier inismenger.
The France I a n d seen thus for
"Anti-Himiltlism," he ermlinued, "looms largest in the Minds of
The pilot, it It Month, agreed to 1010110 Until It nestled against the
wits it France that showed no
auto In front of it. Hite backed hit throw who have nothing Jewish to fall Molt upon, The greatest prob.
signs of war. The Paris I had seen Hilt. me as for as Villarimblity, and the same thing happened, loin of our people is their ignorania,
of things Jewish. Before
In the thinly lit evening was n shy the NATti airfield and there I Again and yet again,
else, we must It itch our children their Iiislory end their ideology, Every
would
have
to
gel
further
pornilis•
of peace, The Paris I New Ut the
For fifteen minutes she kept one of our children lutist know whit It means to he II Jew."
shall front the lieutenant In charge
morning Was 11 file different
backins, up and rolling down while
Speaks Many Languages
for flight to Frankfurt.
brings great enjoyment lo Katz, I fil has helm all Oyer
the lot attendant stood watching
There were crowds in the
From Orly to Villacoublay Is ten
streets, Kitty men and ninny, minutes by air. Once there, I went in hilarious enjoyment, Finally she Europe, having traveled through hassle, IJurnuuly , Poland, f'r'anc , .
InallY women slopped at rubbish to the lied Croput for coffee end dempuired. Hite walked up to OW Lithuania, Latvia, Emthintia, Finland and Belgium.
As it result of his travels end
studies, JCulz speaks thichtly In
Idles to pick 0111 things. They doughnuts and mostly secured per• uttrndnnl end paid him the fee
liaised out lulls of cold, even bits mission to ride the rest of the wig she would have given hail she Verna, Russian, Yiddish, Hebrew and English. Ile Is also ablo
converse In varlous Slavonic languages, Willie In college, lie ran
of wood fur their stoves at home, Ili Frankfurt. The plane I lilt parked In the
Whereupon the attendant swung newspaper column on customs in the various countries in which he
dwindle butts, Food is not too Villecoublay In wits a Douglas
plentiful here even now. We could 47, it two-engine plane, even bagel her ear out in the open with it had lived. When word got around that he wits acistiolfficil wIlli elf
loud criticism of lady drivers In 1111.141. 11111141111gi'S, 1141 . 11tS 1'111110 10 111111 romtlanfly for translations of
not get breakfast at 7 it 111.
R u in the C-114 In which J had come
gulli1111. From nearby buildings forvIgn language quotations.
1100'0111S ilvey Ill) n
ovet to Paris,
where employees had stopped thin
"My principal difficulty now," lie said, "is thumb I Ili) 110 huvu
breakfusl, even for those who can
11'Ition all hour, we wore hying work to enjoy the spectacle came (IMP to devote to the many activities unit organizations in which tit
buy,
Un it I '0.1 moo,. Milli I t'011111 WI' no it loud cheer. The crestfallen lady ion interested, Sometimes 1 um up 1111 three o'clock In the morning
Everybody rides it bicycle Ill sign of war 1/S'e were 'lying over got into her car and drove away. working on liar material 1 hove, but I 111 . 1,
1W 111, 1•111 10 101 1110 to
ViI1114. Everybody carries it bag Or (lemony id Boo feet 1 could see
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that, whereas Frain o had few tot
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"I stood In my yard and saw a
101)1.14 to Publish Books
"els and much feline land, (bl- chicken in the yard next door,'
"Some day," he emwitirled, "I hope to publish II moiler of Moats
Jillelt WI' went by cub to 111111111er
oomy hail many forests and little sold tin old colored prvuelier. "1 on synagogue organization, ittlinitilittration and linancr I have a great
23 I ' lurr Ve111101111 . lit 1.:ATrl Head
vary deal tut original miderial on hand and 1 am constantly getting
wanted chicken for I* I/
We were greeted very fertile lam land
hail en hour lutes. , 1 begun to Molly so I prayed that tic bird for Information and organization from synasoigues all over the cowl
pleasantly by it lieutenant In
obarge and, after presenting 011 Hittite shell holes and whole set • 'night fly Into my yard 1 prayed try. It Is taw of toy ambitions to gut these things done end some day
, ,ur passport k
were given u rub tams of Milord out fort slit Then and preyed bid lie dal tart Ity I hope to got MI11111'11 alit this work."
I r wild but' WI ' el kell 11011114 ant over.
His principal pleasure, hownvil, conies fro m 'lovin g in Rowe l s
iYution on u plane
bombed loK 115 I Wits getting my
"Then I changed my prayer
work on dews who lived In A11011gal) In rally times In order to writ':
In a little while I Kits on toy
11,41 idioms* of War III ljeriautr,
prayed that I might cross uvoi the
ailicles which will oppear In this paper weekly 11,1
4,1 Y buck to Oily Hold to get illy
Suddenly tlie weather clowit.i the servo and catch the chick* n hub gum' Into 'molts, Int1,1111, 1.1mIlulcol, family letters unit photogrisplIJ
baggage J found myself shiny
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My prayer 5455 4111AWI'l 111 once
A surprising amount of Infornaulltm Ill„ been patilvi. i'd 100111,:i
opposite ass witty nurse. o lost up and
el AnI1111 I e mild one only
Jumped user tiw lenge and bud on Jews who bow! lived In Nils state. Thu inforioution goys bat it to
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lit aunt Itn uidi rolf kilo' laid
white, nod Illte filed ebleiten (or suppe r
clouds
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Pod flown in WI a C.4 T plane with
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bindles
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A lolly proposed to dye her 11141f
1‘ali hill but owe inIc icsted tl this subjci I 11,11
his studies in
limo, 0114 w,a0 till the Kay 'ION 11 tuWafd kind
5,114 what ttludr171 K oil
ICl/ by using a leoselit solullun
the sully hottoty or 'I, topic Huth P;1 Hun g ' of Ili' JiKS
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